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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I and my ex bf been together about 3 months and we were broken 3 weeks ago. Initially, i dumped him but after i tried to see him and get back him again but he rejected. He told me he needs time to think but it's been long times already. First 2 weeks i was crazy about get back him and i asked him to meet several times but since last thursday i didn't contact to him at all. The thing is his behave is weird. If i call him, he seems like he doesn't want to see me and he tells me he doesn't know what to do with me bc he thinks i was not happy when i'm with him. but if i don't call him, he calls me first. Even the valentines day, he called me twice adn i didn't pick up the phone. Then he called me blocked caller id. I don't understand why he called me. He seems like still thinkg about our relationship and it's already been 3 weeks. I know I sometimes very mean to him and i asked him broke up lots of times but i don't think he needs this much time to think. The day we broken, he bought me snowboard and luxurious handbag. I told him i dont need it but he told me it's his pleasure. That day, we were broken and i tried to give that stuff back to my bf but he strongly wanted i keep these for cherish purpose i think. I really loved him and I really loved to spend time with him but he seemed very lazy to see me and we only met 2 times a week.(dated about 3-5 hours)I always upset about that facts and with that reason, I used to mean to him bc i didn't want show all my love to him. Yeah.. i think i felt insecure with him.He has very professional job and for me, he's superior to compare me. I came from hongkong about 6 yrs ago and my english is not good enough. My dad's business was bankrupted few yrs ago.. so I always thought i am not right match for him and that was why he is not really into me. But it wasn't true.He used to tell me I am so perfect to him and he really loved me but he is so busy at work and he's not very healthy so need rest after work during the weekdays. hmm.. now i know he really loved me but he told me he's not sure if he loves me now. He is always showing himself on msn but i blocked him and i don't pick up his phone call bc i am so afraid if i desperate him a lot again.. I don't know it's better to pick up his phone call or not. Even if i talk with him on the phone, i know he still doesn't wanna see me and there's no answer..square one.. He told me he tried hard but our relationship is not gonna work out. I told him, from now on, I will try my best to be nice to him and i will not gonna acting so immature and i will try to understand him..but he still say he doesn't have answer yet..it's so hard.. I think if he loves me, he might wanna see me.. isn't it?Valentines day is over and now i feel so lost..i have no idea what he is thinking now. He told me he doesn't wanna hurt me again so he can't see me now. He told me my happiness is the most important but my life is not happy without him. I really can be nice to him now, but i think it's too late already. I asked him give me a chance, but seems like he will never give it to me. Whenever i asked to him to see, he always told me next week is better. but next week is never coming and he told me he prefers to talk on msn if i want. I can't do anything and i cant eat too. I should move on.. right? there seems no hope for us..i am really confused and don't know what to do. i was thinking to go see him but it is not a good idea i think.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Yes, move on. 3 months and things didn't work. No use dwelling on a failed relationship. It's not like years were invested here. Learn from it and do your best to move on.
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