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writes:Please help me :( So i am 15 turning 16 next month. I am starting to fall in love for the second time now, butt this time, Its deeper, this girl is like no other. She is beautiful, kind, nice, etc etc. She has everything a good guy wants from a girl. Shes got it all. I am falling in love with her but theres a problem. Me and her have known each other for 2 years,. We became really good friends over the course of time. She date guys and i dated girls and we were still close friends. She just dumped her boyfriend 2 months ago.Meanwhile when they were dating she always asked me for advice and stuff like dat when she was going through hard times during their relationship. But now this past month that she has been single me and her have been talking everyday. We have become closer and closer. And in the course of time im falling in love deeply more and more everyday. What she thinks of me: Im her best friend and loves me alot (as a friend) she says im her "dad" because she literally tells me everything about her life. I love her so much, and i tell her, but he thinks im saying it that i love her as a friend. After she dumped her ex bcuz he was hitting on other girls and not caring about her anymore. They date for 7 months, and had sex . She lost her virginity with him. And now that she has left him she cant stop thinking about him, she feels like she is his because she gave her virginity to him.. she still loves him even tho he is already dating another girl. . i talk to her n tell her to forget about him and give her advice and everything, but she still cant forget about him. :( i hang with her a lot and we talk and everything but she only likes me as like he best friend. But i love her :( she asked me 2 weeks ago if i like her n i said no that i love her as best friend. She asked me bcuz i always tell her i love her and she makes me smile all the time. Now this past week i think shes starting to realize im in love with her and she hasnt been talking to me alot like b4 :( idk what to do now. basically, To summarize it all up, i love her, she loves me as a best friend and is still in love with her ex boyfriend who had sex with her and is now with another girl. Idk what to do. my question is, should i tell her i love her more than a best friend? Or should i give her time to forget her ex?
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reader, N91  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Well she's already told you that she will, relax man. Just get together and go with the flow.
See what happens...
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks thanks!! Well yea, i told her that i have no hurries at all. That if she needs time that ill give her an eternity. That i will wait until she settles
Her feelings and forgets about the other guy. I also said that she will not hurt me because i swear that if she is ever by my side, i will make her the happiest girlfriend ever. That our great friendship that we have will always be present in our relationahip no matter what. I hope she understands me and i hope that someday she will be there girl that wakes up next to me every morning (: i love her so much 3 ive been in love once. This is my second. But this time. Its something bigger. Its deepper and more pure love. it comes straight from deep inside the heart. Idk what i will do if she decides not to try it out with me :(
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 June 2011):
Congrats man!
And yeah, she is saying she doesn't want to make you feel like she did when she broke up with her BF.
Just try it out, hopefully everything goes well for you guys and even if it doesn't work out, you will then know and at least you can carry on being friends.
Again, congrats!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionN91 : hey bro, thanks for helping out . So i confessed to her
That i love her. Her reaction was that she wuld try it out with me (date) but she doesnt want to hurt me because she is crazy n she wuldnt want to se
Me suffer like she has b4 cuz of her ex.. ?
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 June 2011):
I'd definately think about telling her how you feel VERY SOON, leave it too long and you're going to fall into the friend zone and believe me buddy, it's like a bottomless pit.
If you tell her, at least she knows, it may be awkward for a while but let her know that you don't want it to spoil the friendship and that if she doesn't feel the same, tell her you'll back off for a little bit until your feelings are gone and you can pick up the friendship where you left off.
Most importantly though, you definately need to let her know how you feel, at least you won't be wondering what if anymore.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBrittanybucket : thank you very much for the advice! Last weekend we went to a party n her ex was there and his new gf also was there and shs couldnt stop staring at them :( i was tryna get her to stop it n just talk with me and that but she wuldnt.. Im pretty sure she still loves him abit. Yesterday she told me that she wants to forget him, but she doesnt know how: What i told her, is that to forget him she might need to find another man who will actually value her and that maybe by starting to look into another guy that she could forget about him. i said that because i want the best for her. Also because i kinda want her to realize i am the am guy that will make her happy. Shes been sad lately and whenever we talk she says she is turns happy for that moment were talking (: i love her so much 3
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reader, brittanybucket +, writes (21 June 2011):
 What she needs now most is a friend. If more is meant to happen between you, then it will happen in time, but she has to realize it, too. It sounds like she is still hurting from this other guy, too, and needs her space for now. The best thing you can do is keep doing what you've been doing. She will appreciate it and it will make the bond between the two of you stronger, regardless of if you end up together or not.
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