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writes:There's a girl who works out the same gym I do and we've been flirting visually for a couple weeks until last week when I passed by her in the gym and she complimented me with a "hi". But I just don't know if she's actually into me (and doing that first step of getting into contact) or she was just being polite after me staring at her so many times (maybe I thought we were flirting visually, but it was only I actually flirting...) Never mind it, I'm really shy when it comes to approach girls and I feel kind of lost as I really want to get along with her... Any advice? Would you think she's being cool or flirtatious with me? What should I do to "break the ice"?
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reader, Vini +, writes (17 June 2011):
Vini is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlmost a week after I have written this (a day after she said me "Hi" for the first time), I finally managed to meet her at the gym again, As I have noticed she wasn't working out lately or she either changed her working out time, I went on and asked why she hasn't been around lately, or if she changed the time she works out, she said she was just being lazy with these cold days (we're in Winter in my country), and as I noticed the conversation would have a pause or even end, I introduced myself and asked her name, she told me her name with a smile and then I went back to my routine and she went back to hers. Anyway, She left the gym today without even looking at me or saying a "goodbye" or anything of that sort... Have I done anything wrong or she really just isn't into me? Should I try approaching her again when I see her (let's hope she doesn't have more "lazy days"...)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): To be honest who knows what she might be thinking but, or if she is single? If I were you I'd try and catch her at the end or beginning of a work out and start general conversation about things that are not on a personal level after you have an excuse to talk to her. Can you use the same equipment she is at some stage e.g. if she does running on a machine do one next to her and say - you know I don't do this machine often but it looks like a good idea to mix into my routine! Put some headphones on and listen to some music- ask her if she likes music, that kind of thing.
The gym is really an awkward place to get a conversation going, but by no means impossible.
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