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writes: My boyfriend about 2 weeks ago told me that he wasn't sure what he wanted anymore and that he needed time. He is 30. I am giving him this time. But, I am so confused. He told a friend of his that he wants me to be more independent. I totally understand that and am totally taking the time to work on myself. But, I just hate not knowing if the relationship is over for good cause I feel like it is. Any help or advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (27 November 2006):
 I think SHANDY POP hit the nail on the head. Take it as if you are finished and give him ALL the time and space that he wants. Don't sit around and wait for the phone to ring as you will go crazy. Maybe in the future but who knows. By that time you could have found someone new or just feel like you have outgrown him. Just enjoy your free time and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): The only people that should be talking about this situation are you two. You both need to get together and decide what is happening. You are either on or off! If he wants time to find himself or get together his independence then i would take it that you are finished. If that is the case then give him all the space that he needs and move on. There are plenty of gorgous guys out there. Maybe one day he will have his independence and want you back, who know you could end up back together in the future. But both of you will be different people. Much more assertive and strong. Maybe you will meet someone else who really wants you for you and he won't get a look in.
Try and have a talk.
Take care
xx
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