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writes:im a lil frustraded and i need help.ok me and my husband have been together since i was 16{now im 20} and hes the only man that ive ever trusted, hes my high school sweet heart my first and only love. We split up for about a year cause he joined the army {we still kept in touch but dated others} then we realized we couldnt live without each other and got married, this was 1 year and 2 months ago. Things have been rocky cause he left to go overseas two months after we got married but weve seemed to make it through somehow. Him being over there and me being over here i feel that we're growing up but in different directions, i havent had much in my life growing up and my brother just passed away a month ago and my family is so far away from me and i want a baby and he wants to wait. My main thing is i feel that when he comes back we're both going to be very different people and i know i love him with all my heart and soul but my family is moving across the states and i find myself wanting to go with them instead of stayin her waiting for him. and i mean things are good with me and my husband now but im just not sure if i want to be with him anymore. HELP! What do i do?
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reader, mona-lisa-cries  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Well i may just sound like a stupid little girl but i think you sound like the type of person to wants to make everyone else happy but have you ever sat down and thought about what you acctually want?on the other hand because you have been put in that horrible postion where the one you love is so far away you want out of the relationship you have with him...do you want away from him or the relationship? it is possible you do love him but cant handle the situation, if that is true you need to tell him this, if he loves you he will do anything to make you happy...im guessing he does love you. You never know maybe if he left the army either he would feel ready for a family or you might agree to wait because you wont be so lonely...i really hope i helped, you have to be strong to go through what your going through, your someone people should aspire to, byee xxx
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (28 May 2007):
I cant' imagine being in your position, with you hubby deployed, although I know there are plenty of women like you! I can imagine how lonely you must feel, especially with your family moving away, and your hubby away, and missing your brother, and wanting a baby to make yourself a new family! You can go with your family if you want, until your hubby gets home, but you've got to try to make it work when he gets home. When he gets home, spend some time re-connecting with him, and decide if you want to be together, before trying for a baby. You may as well decide if the two of you are going to work it out before bringing a baby into a broken home. Best of luck, and keep us updated!
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reader, candy00s +, writes (28 May 2007):
 You both want completely different things, maybe try and explain your urge to travel with your family.
Time apart may help - either make or break you.
I think you both need to talk about your relationship and what you want out of it.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
 It sounds like you never were sure about marrying him in the first place. You need to let him know that your feelings have changed, and that you want a divorce. The longer you wait, the more hurt you're going to do to him.
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