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writes:I started going out with this guy about a month ago, he is the sweetest thing and I really like him and he recently told me he loved me and I said ok. I really like him and care about him but I don't know if I love him yet. And to make things worst my cousin saw the whole thing and told everyone what happened including him and now its awk and he asked me if I freaked out when he told me he loved me and I said no. I don't know what to do because I like him but wouldn't I know if I loved him. Also what should I do about my cousin? Thanks for your help.
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reader, Ilovemyoreo2010 +, writes (14 May 2010):
 like the above reader, i agree with him, there is no reason to hury things along. saying i love u too quickly could be a bad thing in some cases. ive had guys tell me they love me after only a few days, and to be honest it did kinda freak me out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): hii, there...
i agree with caringguy...your cousin is nothing to worry about. buuut even so, if you don't want everyone else knowing your personal business, perhaps you should watch what you say around him or her.
now, onto the most important part. i think it's really awesome that you avoided responding with, "i love you, too," when your boyfriend told you that he loved you. there are people who wouldn't have handled the situation the way that you did, and that could have led to some problems and heartbreak. and it's perfectly natural for you to be unsure of whether or not you love him. you've only been together for about a month, right??? well, even though it might not seem like it, a month really isn't all that long. you're still getting to know each other and everything; figuring out what kind of people you are and how you're going to be as a couple. there have been times in my life when i wish that i would have done this; it probably would have prevented a whole lot of negativity. my advice to you is to just take your time. learn more about him and see how things are going to go before you go off spouting the "l" word.
best wishes, and God bless!!!
~sarsar~
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 May 2010):
Your cousin is nothing to worry about. In future, be careful what you say in front of him/her.
As for your boyfriend, just reassure him that you care for him, but that you take the word 'love' seriously and need to be sure you feel that way before you say it. You're right to be careful. Too many people use the word 'love' freely. He might love you, but there is no harm in you taking your time to work out how your feel. It took both my girlfriend and I five months before we said it to each other. There's no rush to say it.
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