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anonymous
writes:Why doesnt he want companionship? I have a relationship if you can call it a relationship with a guy who is 42. We have 2 children together and i have known hin many yrs now. We no longer live together but continue to have this relationship. He lives with his mother. We did live together briefly when our son was born and he is now 2. We parted as i had trust issues with him, i have tried to put that aside and try to mend our fragile relationship. He looks after our 2 children during some week day evenings while i work when i return he leaves and goes home, some wk ends he may spend a night at my home but mainly disappears out on his bike. The problem is that there is no companionship between us. we spend no time alone, our sexlife does not exists, although i am sure he suffers a problem there too. It just feels like this is all about him being there for the children. I have told him how i feel yet nothing changes. I do not want to give up my job as its the only free time i get from my kids. He says it wont always be this way yet he has no belongings at my home and even suggests he d like some of my old things for his bedroom at home. I am feeling confused as it is if he has no intention of us ever being a proper family. Is he just stringing me along? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): From what you have said - its not a relationship at all - he is helping you with the children so you can get to work and popping over at the weekend, but not to be with you. You don't have sex and have no communication about the two of you, plus he lives with his mother .I would consider yourself single and behave as such, plus stop the weekend 'stop overs'. If he wants to see the children then they can go to him at the weekend or he can take them out then drop them back to you.Lucky man - no responsibilities yet he's a dad, living with his mum not you. I hope he at the very least pays out financially for his children.
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