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writes: I don't really know why i'm asking for help or advice on this as i know a big part of it is my fault.To cut a long story short i've liked this guy for a while, and he was the first person i'd ever slept with. He doesn't know that part and i wouldn't give him that satisfation on letting him know. He knows i have feelings for him but uses it against me. He has a girlfriend now and a few months ago we ended up sleeping together. My only excuse, if there is one, is that i genuinely had some feelings there. A few months on a he's made it pretty clear he wants to sleep with me again or at least be sexual with me. It's really hurting because he's with her and acting like the loyal boyfriend to everyone, e.g. posting photos on facebook etc... then talking to me on chat and asking why i never come to see him. I just need to forget him once and for all. I'm under no illusions that all he wants from me is sex and that no matter how he denies that i know that's all he wants from me. I think that's what hurts the most, that the first person i trusted enough to sleep with has done this to me. I've tried to tell him how much he's hurt me and that I can't continiue being "friends" which is what he says we are. I don't know how to stop this cycle and be rid of the pain for good.Feel free to judge because i know what i did was wrong but if anyone out there has any advice i could really use it right now.
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get him out of your life, i have been there believe me, i let him make my life hell for two years, delete him on facebook if you have his number delete it or change your number, if he trys anything just simply say look i know we had sex before but i'm just not interested and remind him he has a girlfriend, us girls are attracted to assholes unfortunately, people make to much of a deal about the first time, it happened you cant change who it was, you cant regret it because its what you wanted at the time, move on meet other guys, and don't dwell on the fact that he was your first it means fuck all, don't give him the satisfaction of causing you any heartache, he proably thinks he has you wrapped around his little finger, from now hes a thing of the past, if he hassles you again tell him straight out if he talks to you again his girlfriend will be the first to find out, see how smug he is then, don't be angry towards him because soon enough hes going to realise he cant live his life like this, and i can tell you hes going to get some shock when it all comes crashing down on him!
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