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*irlygirl2thextreme3
writes:Hey there....well the other night I was texting my friend Rachel and she told me she was bisexual. Then I asked her if she liked anyone...and she said she likes me. I wasn't creeped out or anything I was just...I don't know what I was thinking! I didn't know how to react and I still don't!! What do I do?!?!?! I don't know how to react to this! PLEASE HELP!
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (29 July 2008):
 I guess the first question you have to answer is, how do you really feel about this. Give that some careful thought. Have you ever considered the possibility of involvement with another woman? You probably haven't. This new revelation gives you an opportunity to take a really serious look at your own motivations and curiosities.
My guess from the tone of your letter is that once you look deep within yourself you're going to find that you're not interested in a relationship with this girl, at least not at this point in your life. If that is the case, then it's best just to let her know that you are very flattered for the attention, and although you are not interested in her as a potential lover you really want to keep her as a good friend.
If you ARE curious or interested in exploring the possibilities inherent in your friend's confession, I urge you to let her know but also let her know how it makes you feel. Chances are, if you haven't considered it before, you are more than a little bit nervous about it. In that case you will want to take things VERY slowly with her. Make this as plain as can be with her before you make any plans to move ahead with any sort of a possible relationship.
But the key is first to know yourself. Be totally honest inside your own head. Imagine yourself in a relationship with this girl. How does that make you feel, about her, about yourself, and about the two of you together? Could you deal with the feelings you would have? Could you deal with the reactions of other people? Think, and think hard. This is NOT a decision you only get one chance at, so don't be afraid to let yourself say that it's not for me "at least not right now" but I might want to look at the possibilities again later. But be honest. Know yourself and your desires first. Then you'll know what to do.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2008):
I think Student of Life has got the right answer. Tell her you are fine with her sexuality but that you are not interested in her in that way.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 My best friend (boy) told me the same thing. I told him that I love him lots but not in the same way that he did. We are still best friend to this day.
Didn't change anything either.
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