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writes: i don't know what to do about this girl. we've got the weirdest relationship, and i feel like there's so much sexual tension built up between us that we just can't express. i know for a fact that we both used to like each other a lot, but she's now in a relationship. so we tried to build a friendship, but we've talked about it before in the past, and have admitted that we still had feelings for each other. we even kissed one night. so she told me she was going to work on curbing those feelings for me and make them purely platonic for the sake of her relationship. but since then, i feel like our relationship has only grown stronger. we walk our dogs together every day, we go out together at night sometimes, and we even plan on living together after college here soon (which was her idea). i've also noticed little signs of flirtation. she pushes me sometimes, or jokingly says things about me being in love with her. my friends have even said that we behave like a married couple sometimes. i like her a ton, but don't know how to proceed because i want to respect her and her relationship. i don't know what to do.
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reader, Sweetasadaisy +, writes (22 August 2006):
Well first thing I would suggest not doing is coming between their relationship. Right now you need to be there just as her friend. If the two of you end up getting together you want it to be beacuse it's meant to happen. Not because you forced it to happen. You need to show her you respect her and her relationship, because in the long run. You wouldn't want her to have doubt's later on if you would come between someone else, again. Most importantly you defintely wouldn't want doubt's of someone coming between you two. Good luck sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): stay friends. flirt. but YOU don't EVER make the first move, let her come to you. just make it plain and clear that you want to be her friend---but also make it clear that if SHE wants to do anything you don't mind either. that way you won't look like the bad guy, and besides, you should know if her intentions are clear. that way she won't use you if she's not getting enough from her current beau. if she really does love you--she'll leave the other guy, right? so just wait..patience is of virtue..or something like that and good things ALWAYS comes to those who wait.
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