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writes:Hi!I don't now what I should do in this situation. For some years I and a boy I like, always went to the same hobby club. When we were there, we barely said "Hi" to each other and almost never talked.Now I've moved to another city. We have the same friends though, so he comes and visits here like every month. At this times, we all meet togehter and have fun! He laughs a lot. He acts like he knows me well and like we've always been good friends. He talks nice with me. He looks me deeply in my eyes. And for me, he seems a bit intrested.I really like him. I have good contact with his best mate, but I don't know how to came forward with this boy I like. He lives so far away now... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Blue_Angel0316: Thank you so much for your time and answer, I really appreciate it! =)
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (20 January 2009):
 It's very possible that he does like you. Howcver being in a long distance relationship can be hard. Perhaps he wants to just keep everything as is for now as he hasn't spoken up and told you anything different. Do remember that roads go everywhere and planes fly to alot of places, so there is hope!*LOL* Just be prepared in case you do hook up with him to be aware of all the pitfalls concerning a long distance relationship.Know that if you persue this you are going to need alot of patience,understanding,faith,trust and the ability to wait it out. Stay busy with yourself in the meantime and let him know you would like to keep in touch as friends.
Getting close to his best mate can be helpful but don't get overly close and definantly not intimate in any way. The friend most likely will PASS ON any juicy little tidbits of your affections directly to him! I guess the main thing here is how long you are willing to wait on him. If you can withstand the long periods of time without someone. It can be stressful and hard BUT ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE. You can offer your number if he would like to keep in touch. If you do however let him call YOU! If things go well then you can keep in touch by phone, mail,text, email or any other means.
This way you can take your time in really getting to know this guy and allowing a great friendship to build. As time progresses you can get better aqquainted and in time perhaps he will give you the hint that he likes you too. If it turns out that he really just thinks of you as a friend, don't worry because as time passes sometimes things change. If they don't, rest assured that it wasn't meant to be. You WILL eventually find out and then you can go from there. Let things develope slowly, evolve naturally and without pressures.
It sounds like you are at least headed in the right direction for the ground work in becomming great friends. A FRIEND is a special gift, one to be treasured forever. Rejoice and be glad! GOD HAS THE UPPER HAND HERE, GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO WORK IN YOUR LIFE. PRAY FOR WHAT YOU WANT AND LET HIM BE THE ONE TO CHOOSE YOUR MATE. Believe that it can happen and that in GOD'S TIME THAT HIS WILL BE DONE. No matter how things turn out, you will know that you have a friend for life.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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