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writes:So there's this guy who I like, and as much as I flirted with him for a joke, I always felt something for him. I figured he was straight, and the other week he asked me out. Now as you can imagine I was over the moon, but things were weird for a while, plus things happened when he was a kid that I won't talk about but they make him uncomfortable in relationships with guys.So after the first couple of weeks, we've been on a couple of dates, had fun together, and I really like him more than I think he knows. The problem is that this is my first REAL relationship, and I'm 16. So the other Saturday, he came and stayed over my place, and honestly, I had a great time, but now, I don't even know how to talk to him. He's told me before like a week after our first date, that I was coming on a little too strong, so I've backed off, but that keeps getting into my mind and especially after last Saturday I just can't pluck up the courage to speak to him at all. I start breathing really heavy whenever he's in a room, because he wants us to stay a secret at school until he's ready, and I respect that, but I just run and hide whenever he's near me around other people because I'm afraid I'll say something.I really really like him, but I just can't talk to him and it's driving me crazy...it doesn't help that I'm such a late bloomer, and that I'm struggling in school. I really just don't know what to do lately. Someone please help.
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reader, countrylover0976  +, writes (1 April 2011):
Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and let it all out. Go for a jog and let all your anxiety and stress out! Then approach him from a perspective of how you feel. Giving time is appopriate but not talking can send mixed signals. I started my first relationship at age 16 and had 12 wonderful years (first partner was in car accident or it would be 18 wonderful years). Life isn't easy and not saying something would jeopardize a really good future. So get rid of your anxiety and push forward.
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