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writes:I just found out i am 2 mths pregnant....i dnt kno how it happened he used a condom an i am on the pill.......what do i do keep it and put it up for adoption get an abortion or just keeP it how do i tell my boyfriend tht i am pregnant....i am so confused what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Hi Hun! First of all let me say that if you used both a condom, and were on the pill, then you have done nothing wrong and no one can accuse you of being 'unsafe'. Using both a condom and being on the pill does not make becoming pregnant impossible, even though some people seem to think it does! I know this as I was in the same situation (although older!) and am now coming up 6 months pregnant.
No one can tell you what to do, not even your boyfriend, so don't let them. What I will say is don't base your decision on your initial reaction. My initial reaction was 'oh god, I can't tell anyone about this, i'm going to have to get rid of it and not tell anyone' but I decided to keep it and couldn't be happier. You don't want to rush into a decision and have regrets for the rest of your life. The one thing that crossed my mind was 'what if this is my only chance and I throw it away', but then you also have to think about yourself, and how much having a baby will affect your life. You could miss out on some of the best times of your life, but then i'm sure there can be no greater feeling in the world than holding your own child!
What you really need to think about is the baby. If you are willing to put a babys needs above your own, you need to ask yourself a few things. Will you have the emotional/financial support you need? Will the baby have the support it needs from you and your family? Are you mature enough to look after a baby of your own at such a young age? You'll be surprised at how supportive people will be after the initial shock of telling them, perhaps one of the hardest things is over-coming this hurdle, but if you keep the baby you will feel much more comfertable with people knowing rather than keeping it secret.
My suggestion is to sit down, and write yourself some questions like the ones I have given you above, and see what you come up with. If you think you can give the baby a good life, then don't let others opinions hold you back!
S xxx
P.s Whilst remembering not to rush your decision, try and make one A.S.A.P as the little thing inside you is growing at a fast rate!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Just tell your bf what choice do you have its no ones fault these things happen only abstinence is 100% effective for not getting pregnant unless your the Virgin Mary.
I believe life begins at the moment of conception and dont believe abortion is an option under any circumstance.
The choice is ultimately yours and your bfs but some decisions are easier to live with then others and you cant take back regret.
Its not impossible to raise a child even at a young age your self. it can be more difficult but if you have support from your family and the father you can be successful.
"get an abortion or just keep it" You refer to the unborn as an it an it can be anything but this is a living growing life a life that rest in your hands destroying this life might be the easy decision in the short term but the easy road should be the least traveled.
Go with Faith and consolidation not fear and confusion the choice is yours choose wisely
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