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*oftballplaya
writes:hey everyone, I really need advice. I've been thinking long and hard and I've got advice from family and friends but I want to see what others think...We'll I was with this guy for 2 months, we both are in highschool. I'm a sophomore and he's a senior. Everything was going great. But during our christmas break we had our first real argument. We loved eachother, please keep that in mind as I tell this story. Well I went with my neighbor who is like my older brother and his friend into town, and I told him about it because I didnt want to hide anything from him, not that it was even a big deal. Needlesstosay he went off on me and told me that people have been telling him that I've flirted with tons of guys in school when he leaves for work release. I couldnt believe this! So it turned into a huge fight on xmas eve between us. his mom and sister both called me saying that he really does love me, hes just hurt. I talked to him and he says that hes been having family problems since his dad dies two yrs ago and that he was hurt from our issue. I'm trying to give him time, its been a little over a week since I had a heart-to-heart talk with him. He said "i'm not done with you forever I just need time to get my head right" I don't know how to deal with all of his, I did nothing! I want to make it right, but I don't know how...I'm sorry it was so long
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (9 January 2010):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the question I understand hes having problems but push out the person who hes talked to the most about it all? And to male reader anonymous, yes he has known about my neighbor being the closest thing I have to a brother, my parents cared for him more then his own when we were kids and I explained that well to my boyfriend. I just don't know how to give him time, we went from talking every day to not speaking at all because of these issues. It hurts and I'm trying my best to put my own feelings aside for him but its difficult when I feel so emotionally hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): If he is having family problems you guys are both young and dont need to be in a relationship right now, harsh reality but he is at no means to have a relationship while he is an emotional state with family problems at home. maybe you two can try things when things are better with his home life or maybe if he moves out. Right now you guys dont need to be in a relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): Relax,,, take a deep breath.
Did you tell your B/F about "like my older brother" before or after spending time with "like my older brother" ??? I'm betting it was after spending time with "like a older brother" and his friend right?
Inside secret,,?? Guys get really 'protective' of girlfriends and their hormones are all screwed up besides.
Losing his dad and still working on that is very likely. It's never easy having a parent die.
He's being very open and honest with you. Give him time. Guys have a unique ability to totally switch off their emotions-not deal with it for a while- then come back and deal with the emotions with a clearer head. Long as he throws the switch back "on" it's going to be fine.
He did give you a very honest answer: He said "i'm not done with you forever I just need time to get my head right"
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