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writes:I've never had sex before but am with someone now who i trust enough that i have started to consider losing my virginity to them. We have touched on the subject briefly but i'm not so good at talking about my feelings in general so he doesn't actually know that i'm a virgin. I know that if i can't talk to him about it that i'm probably not ready.. but i think the only way i will become ready is if i just confront my problem of being a little guarded with my feelings and really talk to him about it. What's the best way to go about talking to him about this? How will i know if it's the right time? I don;t want to bring it up if he hasn't even considered it... although i'm sure he has as i know he's not a virgin and there has been some pretty heavy petting... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Please don't do it coz who says he will still be your bf after 6 mnths? I've been there and know what's it like to be with someone who lost her virginity to ex boyfriends. If you think your future husband will be okay with it, do it. I'm still struggling to come to terms with the fact that my wife lost her virginity to someone else. I love her but just can't shake the feeling of being second best, and knowingly or unknowlingly I hate it each time I think of it. Sometimes I ask why I couldn't be the one to whom she lost her virginity and not the other guy who obviously used her!
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reader, john1242  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 hello dear,
it is so good that you trust your boyfriend and you can loose your virginity with him. But as u said that he is not a virgin and this thing makes some trouble because right now you might think that you can trust him and give him your v but this thing can create lot of problems for you in coming life and the most important thing is that can he really be trusted. Just don,t take me otherwise dear but if he leaves you after getting your virginity then it is going to be difficult for you. I just suggest you to give this thing some time and in the mean while realize that is he worth and is he going to be with you always.
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