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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm with a guy that i known for a year and some months. When ever we aren't talking through webcamming (because he lives in another state, 10 years older than me, and we neva met physically except through the internet and webcam)I feel like our relationship won't success of us getting together. But when we talk I'm overjoyed and happy to hear and see him. But for most of his life his gone through hard times. even now his struggling to get a job or he'll be homeless. I don't know what to do about him.or myself. Any tips anyone?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 July 2010):
 I'm sorry you are in this mess and I hope you don't mind me being totally honest with you.
If you are in your early 20's and he is in his 30's he should have his SHIT together by now. If he doesn't he may never have it.
Having a virtual relationship is very different from having a real one. He is on the verge of being homeless, yet he is having Internet? I'm sorry I don't think he is a keeper.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 Yep very tricky situation and I agree with Karen. I think once you meet him in person you will know whether or not to continue. So get yourself a plane or bus ticket and bite the bullet.
Good luck to you.
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 You need to meet in person,its been over a year and you still havent seen met eachother in the flesh?
If its going to work you need to be seeing eachother in person,theres only so far a relationship can go when u only see eachother through the webcam. At the moment you have a cyber relationship,you want the real thing really if you want anything serious out of you and him.
This whole situation sounds pretty complicated, he sounds a bit complicated aswell-hes soon to be homeless and can't find a job..He doesnt sound like he has a lot going for him. Not meaning to be intentionally rude here but i'm going to say this for your own good.. no offence to this guy but it sounds like you could do better,Why don't you find somebody who lives a bit more local to yourself? so you can experience a real relationship.
Whatever choice you make with this i wish you luck :).
Karen.
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