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*saiyaSavannah
writes:I am trying to prepare myself for havign a REAL sexual encounter with this man I love, I am 19 and he is 28! I love him a lot, and I think i am ready to have sex with him. but I'm sooooo scared! I don't know anything about sex, and I want him to enjoy it and want to come back for more, how do I let go of my fears and become "Sasha Fierce" with this man. I am so scared I may look stupid doing something or may do it wrong and turn him off, I need to know things that are easy, straight to the point, and will cause quick stumulation. He is the first person I truly desire to be with since I lost my virinty last year! and I love him and want to make him SPRUNG!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, JsaiyaSavannah +, writes (19 February 2009):
JsaiyaSavannah is verified as being by the original poster of the question lol, cerberus is right, I think I may be blowing this out of portion. I will talk to him. What's the worst that can happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): No he won't mind talking to you about it and being a little worried about performing, he'll probably think it's cute because it shows you care enough about him that you want to be good for him, if I'm honest I really think you're blowing this all out of proportion, we all have to learn somehow.
Talk to him about it, when it comes to the act he'll guide you. When you get into the moment let yourself go, remember he's most likely with you for more than just sex.
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reader, JsaiyaSavannah +, writes (19 February 2009):
JsaiyaSavannah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionidk, i guess because he is older, 28, he should be willing to compromise and work with me. but i dont want him to keep being reminded that he is dealing with a young woman, oppsed to a woman closer to his age. such as a 25 y old maybe. so i am scared to talk to him about it because i dont want to make a big deal of sex to him. i dont want to come off as a beginner, does uys even like beginners! idk..so many questions, so little time!
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reader, JsaiyaSavannah +, writes (19 February 2009):
JsaiyaSavannah is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni guess your right, but as Cerberus eluded to, i was planning to do jus that, lay there like a wet towel, i dont know any moves and i didnt want to make a fool of myself so i was goin to lay there and just do what he says do, until i found my iner rythm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): Yep Satindesire is completely right. Women don't have to worry about "performing" just have to do their best to get off cos that's what most guys get off on, there's no better feeling for us than that "I just made her cum, Im a stud" feeling.
As long as your not just lying there like a wet towel then you'll be fine.
To expand on SatinDesires communication point, it's just as important to do so during the act. For example, if he's doing something that feels great let him know he'll keep doing it, if he's being too rough/fast slow him down with your hands etc.
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