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writes:Hello everyone, I'm writing to you guys for relationship advice. For the past few days I've been really upset with my boyfriend because on thursday he wanted me to come over an spend time with him and I did. He practially rushed me to come over and when I got there he was getting dressed to go out with his friends. He said he'd be right back he had to "handle some business" and that he'd be right back. So I said okay but b4 he left I asked him to be honest and tell me if he was going to smoke weed and he said no. I didn't believe him bbut I gave him the benefit of the doubt. So in the meanwhile when I was @ his house, I cleaned his room for him. Then I waited and waited and waited...etc. I texted him and he kept saying he was coming. I was so fed up that I got dressed again and waited for him to come back home so I could leave because he said he didn't take his keys. 2 hours later!. He comes back.(he lives in a house) I was upstairs in his room and heard the door opening so I thought maybe his brother or mom came home early from work so I was gonna just leave since some1 was coming.. But it was him! I was so upset especially because he knew I was hungry. So I started eating the food that I asked him 2 bring for me b4 I left because I had to go to school after and didn't wanna eat it on my train ride there. He kept on trying to kiss me but I wasn't in the mood because he got me really upset. Then I smelled weed on him! I confronted him and he still denied it even though he got caught. He left me in the house for 2 long boring lonely hours to go smoke weed and pick up porno movies for "us" to watch. He really hurt me. Then the next day he cancelled our plans and today he cancelled our plans again. So i'm very upset with him but he keeps acting like nothing happened and I have nothing to be mad about. I'm very upset and hurt, I feel rejected. Now all I see him as is a weedhead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Seriously... this guy doesn't know what a relationship means.
It means cutting back on time with friends and making your partner the focus of everything you do.
If he can't put you before his friends... then he isn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): What do you mean, you having nothing to be mad about? Just because he lied to you, was very inconsiderate leaving you at his place for a couple of hours - he lied by saying he'd be right back, he lied about smoking weed, then he cancelled plans twice.
I'd say he's a loser. You really don't need him in your life, and I recommend you ditch him fast and do not give him another chance!
You're hurt and angry now, but give it a week or so, and you'll be just fine. He's not worth your grief!
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reader, HerionNiki +, writes (24 January 2009):
 obviously he isnt gonna give up smoking for you so leave him.
but not all potheads are like this cerberus.....i smoke but im not lazy im not forgetful and i dont put my man second to it he comes before everything!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): I must agree it is incredibly difficult to date a pothead, cos you don't want to do anything when stoned, that specific time he probably went to buy some and deals always take way longer, than you think they will when you're making other arrangements.If he's a pothead and you're not, it's most likely you will always come second to weed. He's not trying to be an ass, but weed just makes you lazy, apathetic and very forgetful.You might wanna consider that before you decide whether you wanna continue dating him.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (24 January 2009):
 i hate people who smoke and you do have a reason to be mad if i did that to my girlfriend she would be really mad at me and id feel like i hurt her which if i did that i wouldve hurt her and i never wanna do that so if you love him forgive him but no one says you have to
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): This guy doesn't care about you. A guy who cares about a girl wouldn't treat her like a maid, allowing her to clean up his room for him as if he is a little child, he wouldn't leave her sitting waiting on him for any reason and he wouldn't act like he had business to take care of at the age of 18, he is dealing in drugs, it is obvious.
A guy who is in love does not cancel his plans with his girl. A guy in love does not disregard her feelings and tell her she has nothing to be mad about.
He is a weedhead and a big fat loser.....hard lesson learned but kick this jerk to the curb, please! He is using you, he goes to get high and get some pornos for the two of you to watch, hmmmm, get high to have sex, what does that say......He is only interested in the basic urges of getting up taking a dump, eating some food, getting numbed out on weed and taking care of his sexual urges....the guy is a moron.
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