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*rincessjasmine
writes:Im feeling down about the way I am. I'm an attractive 22 yr old female, I get hit on by guys all the time, I like the attention, but I don't take any of these guys seriously. Im so picky! At the rate I'm going, I dont think I'll ever find a good guy, on top of the fact that I am a Muslim Pakistani American, makes it harder! I want someone w/the same values. The best way , i think, is to search for guys like me online, I met a guy on facebook, but he lives in the west (im on the east coast) and he hardly talks to me. Why is it that I can't get guys thatI actually like? I just wanna call him and talk to him, but its like whenever I want something, I just don'tknow how to get it. I feel anxious when I find a man I dont like, liking me. I ask myself things like: why dont i like him? if other girls like him why dont i? whats wrong w/me? omg, I will never like anyone, omg, I'll never marry anyone. Im fine being single, but these questions become obsessive and it puts me down a lot, causing anxiety. How can I get a guy who I like to like me back? How do I become less picky? How do I let myself like someon? I have forgotten how to feel for someone.
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (30 December 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks egrl, yes, I don't want to end up hating a guy. Some might say that I am never sattisfied. it is true, i am never satisfied with what i have, my ex bf had baggage he never really loved me, and we were not at the same level, I just dont see any man worth my time. They are either too old, not mascculine enough, unalble to hold a good conversation, boring personalities, too funny, unappreciative of what I wana do, to concieted, just plain odd, and the guys who ARE good enough, dont look at me twice :( We have an islamic convention called ISNA where people meet, its hard for me and online seems to be the best option right now. I know that it is impossible for me to try to get this guy to like me when he hasent even seen me (the guy wholives in the west) so ive given up on that, im just feeling down about thae fact that all my girl friends are happy with their men and i am not :( I refuse to settle. but thank u fo r the advice
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reader, egrl202 +, writes (29 December 2008):
Some may say that you have your standards too high and they might say something like dont be soo picky just go with it.
Thats the problem with alot of women, we are lowering our standards and settling for less, only to end up divorced, because we married the wrong man.
My advice to you; get exactly what you want, and not a thing less, if a man truly wants you he will find a way to be with you. Wait my dear, Mr.Right is coming.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 The saying always goes:
The ones I like don't like me. But the ones who like me... I don't.
You've just gotta let sombody love you, or someday it will be too late. This is often the case for many many beautiful women.
It's a vicious circle that happens to everyone. I know a beautiful woman in your situation right now but she is 30 and beauty is passing her by. Inside she's waiting for Mr Right every day. they come but they have the smallest thing wrong. But infortunalty Mr Right may never turn up. or; Mabey he already has? is there one guy head over heeels for you at the mo and has never let you go. Just one main guy?
What about your group of friends, have they thought a guy would be good for you? My sister is Muslim so i understand your religious obstacles in finding a partner especially when you are very attractive as you say.
Is there a Muslim group you can go to where there may be some potential lovers. and im not sure in your case but is it important that the partner be Muslim too?
You can try online but its really difficult to find your happiness that way. Pictures are not really a good depiction of the person you will meet.
dont feel bad if other girls like them, this is normal.
Please reply so i can see what your answers are about the questions?
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