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writes:Hi everyone.I've known a girl online for 2 years. We have this online relationship for over a year now.She is about 10 years older than me, divorced few years and have a kid. She keeps in touch with her x husband. She said, she makes him support most of their kid expenses.From her telling, I feel their reason to divorce isn't valid and both of them are still single. Seeing them love their kid so much, I would be happy if they both get back together.She hasn't called for 2 months. She gives me reasons like busy etc. I feel those are lame reasons. I still call her, she does pick up but most of the time, she ends the call in a hurry. That gives me a sense she is avoiding but thinking deeper, she doesn't have to pick up the call if that is what she intended.We haven't met, mostly we both think it is better to know each other well.Despite we meet online, never meet, I think I've fallen for her for real lol.I don't feel she loves me. I feel like she wants to 'end' it but strange, I just can't. What should I do?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I am the one asking the question.
Thanks for the advice metoo1124.
She still come online everyday to say few words or leave some offline messages. Is that considered an effort too?
It's so true, she still has feelings with her xhusband. She admit indirectly and make it clear she tries to avoid having those feelings again.
I don't mind she is divorced with a kid and meeting her xhusband. He is the father and that is what they should do.
I feel like I am getting mixed signals. If she wants to avoid me, she doesn't need to pick up my call. At the same time, why it happens so many times she end the call in a sudden?
I am concern if she is afraid of being lonely and keep me as backup.
I can't move on not when she is still single. I will just wait till she get another guy or marry her x again else I will most likely keep waiting.
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reader, metoo1124 +, writes (5 March 2009):
 hey guy... wow that sounds weird. i know i cant tell you what to do, but heres what i would do if i was in your position.. take into consideration she does have kids with another man whom she probably still has feelings for because trust me from a girls point of view you will never totally lose all your feelings for a man you once loved. remember they are both in the childs life and that is how it should be. if she isnt making the effort to talk to you and try to make it work if she really isnt interested enough to do little things like text you just to see how you are and what your doing if she doesnt really care its best to move on and find someone who will love you for you and someone you can start a new life with and maybe have kids yourself.
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