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writes:I'm 15 and have been fingered three times now, the first time i had no reaction, i bearly could feel that he was there, that was when i was 13, the second time i was 14, not comfortable with the guy atall and asked him to stop but he persisted and i was very cold and just wanted to leave, so was too busy thinking of a way to leave rather than enjoying what he was doing. so i have just dismissed both these times thinking it was the boys fault, and that they wern't doing it right. but now my present boyfriend fingered me tonight and i was enjoying it and my breathing got faster and my heart raced but that was it not really any moaning or groaning i "uh" a few times but i did that on purpose, it didn't come naturally, is this normal that im not really reaching orgasm from this, is it because i'm young or is it the boys aren't doing it right or is there something wrong with me. i wanted to ask because i just feel silly lying there doing practicaly nothing and it makes my boyfriend unsure of himself too he has asked atleast 10 times if i really enjoyed it and i did.please help, any advice will do, thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Hi! First off to answer your questions, because it is really more than just one. Lets begin where all relationships should begin, and that is in a loving, caring togetherness,where sex really play a small part in that relationship, but it's role is still an important part of that togetherness. To enjoy each other's bodies, sexually. you'll need to know something about the male/female Genital Anatomies. Will address your genitals first-off, As this is where you are having a problem within your relationship. The best place to start is to talk about Sexual-Arousal or in another word, "Foreplay" So
What is foreplay all about? Foreplay is caressing hugging, kissing and touching of our partner's body. Men/women do not have the same rate of sexual arousal. She as a rule is much slower to become aroused sexually than he is. So any sudden vaginal attention, fingering, on his part is really too soon. She isn't ready. And her vagina hasn't fully opened-up yet. If you (masturbate),good for you. Do so when you are alone. So you can get to see your fully opened vagina in a mirror. And you can then become intimate with your "Clitoris", I call it A Woman's Lovebutton. It's that small button of flesh that can be seen at the top of your vaginal lips where they come together. When you or your bf learn how to stroke your, Lovebutton, clitoris. Then your will soon discover what they mean when they talk about an orgasm. Me I call an orgasm a Lovequake, where her whole body is a rocking and a rolling beneath your body. In the stroking, of the clitoris, No two women are the same, when it comes to how they want their clitoris stroked. If your bf is stroking your clitoris. He will have to learn by trial and error How to stroke it. You'll have to first learn how to Masturbate yourself to an orgasm, before you can teach him how to bring you to an orgasm by hand. Do keep in mind that it is Clitoral-Stimulation that induces an orgasm.
So(a) Have him engage in lots of Foreplay, to get you sexually fired-up emotionally and physically. And (b) Use lots of Lubricant in the vagina while he is fingering your vagina,to keep you from getting sore. Do hope that this has been of help yo you both.
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reader, cigwegbe  +, writes (13 July 2007):
i think its a psychological thing,work on it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): Hey I'm 13 and I've been fingered by my boyfriend since I was 12!!!!!!I'm still with my boyfriend!!!And after a while I didn''t really feel anything either!!!So I told him and he said do you want me to put 2 fingers in!!!!And I said yes and it feels much better!!!!!Tell your b/f to try putting his thumb in,it also feels really good!!!!!Email me if you want to talk!!!!!!!Tell me how it went!!!I've done it all!!!!!!!!!Well hope I helped!!!!!!!!!!!!Selenne
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reader, sillzsarah +, writes (13 July 2007):
 heya im only 12 iv neva bin fingered beofre but i will tell you one thing! maybie your not enjoying it because uno that its rong hun u were only 13 i mean dont you think thats a bit young maybie you should wait till ure a little bit older then it will be right you might enjoy it alot more...
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