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writes:Why does my teacher see potential in me when there are other smart students? I am a standard student and get standard grades in my history class. Although i am told i am smart, i just don't see it!Ever essay i do feels like rubbish and i feel like i get a standard grade. But my teacher (3rd year teaching me) told me that i have potential to get A*. I really don't believe him! He is always telling me this and he got mad at me when i didn't do a piece of work, mainly because I've given up and don't see the point of trying any more, because i feel like im not good enough and that im a fake in the subject.He's always on me though. He tells me how im smart, and while i get average grades he told me that i underestimate myself and that im not confident and quite shy. I don't know, i feel scared to ask for help in case of what others think (that i like him) or that i might be annoying him. I want to do well, but i feels like anything i do isn't good enough. In all honesty, why does he think me in particular could ever get A* when there are other students better than me. Sometimes, it feels like he says this only to encourage me but it's putting me off because i know i won't get there. My grade and work in history isn't good any more in my opinion, because i don't feel good enough.Am i stupid to believe that my teacher really sees this big potential in me? To scared to ask for help because im worried he'll get annoyed that i wasn't paying attention in class or that im stupid because everyone else seems to know what they are doing? What should i do? I would love to do and feel for once that my work is worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I didn't know. I will do this, i have to work harder, if he's putting the extra effort, then it's only fair i do too. It'll be worth it in the end. Again, thanks loads!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2014): He's encouraging you because your self esteem is obviously lower than those other students who are performing well. They're meeting their targets, but you have it in you to do better if you just have the confidence and motivation to say to yourself "I can do this, and I'm going to try harder to see what my best really is"If I could have given my teenage self advice, I would've said that I should spend more time studying outside of school than relying on just what was taught in the lessons and set as homework was sufficient. I would say instead of worrying that you didn't have the right bag or brand of shoes to fit in, look in the mirror and see now wonderful you are and how if you try now the opportunities that arise are only limited by yourself.Talk with your parents, maybe there is a counsellor at school, or pastoral advisor who you can discuss confidence building with. There is nothing worse for a teacher than seeing a student not do their best, your teachers spend hours and hours of their time planning lessons for every single one of you. They write those plans and think about how they're going to support all of the class to reach their best. So all of your teachers care. Maybe there is a teacher you trust you could ask to help you with your self esteem.
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