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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I need some advice there's this guy I met last month at a party he seemed to be interested but he never gave me his number he said we should hang out sometime and gave me a spot where he will be however since we have mutual friends I ended up finding him social media that too is talking a little and then exchanging numbers he said he wanted to hang out sometime but never made plans with me till finally I decided to make plans and ask him to hang out I was super excited about seeing him and hanging out with him and spending some time with him and everything was going great at first but then a female friend showed up he seemed extremely happy to see her so I took it as he invited her but when we were hanging out what I thought might have been a date seemed more like I was just getting to know each other the problem is I kind of felt like I had competition he showed us both similar attention but I don't know what I should do however this person that showed up that he invited he's known her a little longer than he's known me so there might be feelings there for her so I want to know what do I do should I keep trying to pursue it or should I just let nature take its course or should I still keep trying to hang out with him or how do I even know if he likes me or if he's interested after we hung out that night I ended up texting him the next day to let him know I had a great time he said yeah we should do it again sometime soon and I said yeah we should but now I'm seem to be waiting for him to make plans or should I make plans again I just don't want to feel like I'm the one chasing him I could really use advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2018): The whole thing was nothing but a casual-acquaintance. If someone says they want to hangout; I wouldn't assume that to be a date. You don't invite others to your date; unless you just wanted to be friends.
Don't take him seriously. He probably likes your company and presence. I think he enjoys being in a group of people when he goes out; and wanted to include you the next time he was out at his favorite spot. Maybe at some point he'll take notice, but if he treated you the same as the other female; there was never a romantic-interest. He's just building a circle of cool people to party with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2018): If you don't want to look as if you're chasing him....then don't chase him.
I wouldn't send him a text saying I had a great time either, if he had invited another woman along that I didn't know about. DID you have a great time? Because if not, don't say it.
I don't mean to be rude, but you come across as a little desperate to please him. And he sounds as if he might enjoy playing one off against the other. Don't give him the satisfaction. Don't text him again and if he does get in touch, don't be too eager to meet up. See how keen he is and judge YOUR reactions on that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 October 2018):
 Pull back.
He actually talked about hanging out with you and then when plans were made he asked another female to join you two? To me that means he is probably TRYING to convey to you that he is looking to be friends (nothing more) with you. Hence bringing a "chaperone". No one your age bring a 3rd person on a "first date"... not if they are interested.
And I would probably look elsewhere for someone to date.
I'd throw this one back in the pond.
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