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writes:I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost 4 months. I love her completely, she is the one i want to be with for the rest of my life but i'm facing a huge battle vs my insecurities and I'm trying to conquer them alone and it is destroying me. Its not that I don't trust her, I do....I just can't get it out of my head that I am not good enough for her and that I am constantly annoying her. I am not afraid to show how much I love her but I think it gets a bit too much for her although she would never say anything. Being long distance doesn't improve the situation either.I don't want to upset her or drive her away so i keep quiet. I have been insecure about myself my whole life and have a habit of messing things up....but none of those mess ups would be comparable to me losing her. It's just driving me crazy, I havent slept in 3 days. Any advice on what I should do? I just wish this internal torment would disappear. Thank you.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Long distance huh? Do you get together? Why don't you feel good enough for her? Are you moving to be closer to each other? How much distance are we talking?
What should you do? Take comfort that of all the men out there in the world, she chose you. That's because you have something she thinks is special. Why question what it is? Just enjoy it and keep showing her why you love her and why she should continue to love you.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (18 February 2011):
I think the best thing you can do is accept the fact that you can loose her. And maybe, if you do accept that, the chances of loosing her will start to dimmer. Because the worst case would be loosing her because of you fear of loosing her.
Think that doing too much to conquer her is a kind of lie. I mean, you are who you are after all. And that's the conquer that will last. If you conquer her by playing some character you didn't conquer her at all.
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