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writes:My name is Amanda and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 almost 4 momths. Everything is going really good we have alot in common but we recently chose to become intimate with one another and all he ever talkes about are these different positions that he would love to try and a few of them i have tried and i like them but i feel like hes not satisfied because i wont do the other ones but its because i dont feel comfortable doing them and he doesnt seem to get that cause everytime i tell him that he sometimes gets moody or starts saying a bunch of crap praying it will change my mind.Its makes me not want to be intimate. How do i get him to understand that i just dont feel comfortable yet doing all these other positions Reply to this Question
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reader, uglybetty +, writes (20 April 2009):
Sweety men are all very unreasonable when it comes to sex. My advice to you is to try and be a little more adventurious. Tried bringing another guy or girl to the bedroom have both guys penetrate you at once. Better yet have them both 69 you both at the same time. Talk about great pleasure. I know that you just lost your virginity but you might as well start being a freak now, while you are still fresh meat on the market. Also don't worry about being embarrassed it's all part of the great sexual experience. GOOD LUCK XXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I see that only women have answered this so far. Well, I'm a man and I just wanted to say that I have read all of their responses and that I agree with all of them. Your boyfriend should be more that happy that you are willing to experimant at all.
P.S. I think that I will stay away from Diovan for a while. She looks mad. Woof. Grrr.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I have little time or patience for little boys who cry and sulk because they don't get what they want. This is emotional blackmail pure and simple. He knows you love him, he knows you want to please him, now he's using that love against you so he can fullfill his every sexual desire. That's not on, it's sneaky and manipulative and hurtfull.
Tell him you don't want to do it and you don't want to talk about it. Tell him to be pleased with the positions you've already tried. If he dosen't like it, then tell him you'll stop being adventurous and go back to plain vanilla sex again. Missionary position only.
He wants to play hard ball, OK. Either he stops his winging and crying or they'll be no new interesting positions or activities from now on. Don't give in to blackmail, they just get greedy for more and more. Stupid idiot boy, smack his bottom and tell him to like it or find somebody else to be his own personal sex toy.....GRRRR
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hi Amanda
You are young and just starting out sexually. Explain to him that you are still not comfortable enough about this to try new things for now. Its normal when you first start having sex to be shy about doing things, showing your body, doing things to him etc but usually the more experienced and older you get the more you become willing to try more things.
If he keeps up with this demanding and then being nasty to you ask yourself if he really is the kind of guy you want to be with x Good luck
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reader, silvia{love}  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 i dont think sex is about one partner enjoyin while the other dont. the best thing to do is sit down and reason with him. tell him or you both should come to agreement the sex position you love and the ones you dont. trying new sex position is good and fun but there's no point one of you enjoyin while the other dont so just reason with him maturely okay.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I agree with Pepper27, you need to communicate your feelings to your boyfriend and if he gets moody, ignore him!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You need to sit down with him and tell him your just not comfortable with all this just yet, It is not a race to see how many possitions you can get into in such n such time..If he cares about you he will listen to your wishes there is lots of time to try new things and he is in a rush to try all sorts your not ready so tell him..If its putting you off then he is going the wrong way of turning you on so he needs to no the truth of how you feel, There are two of you in the relationship not just one..Tell him how you feel and if he gets moody I would just ignore it as that is just plain childish everyone is different and you are your own person and need time he needs to understand and accept this love..TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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