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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:This isn't a relationship problem, but i hope someone can help. I am currently receiving Jobseeker's Allowance, which are benefits we have here in the UK. I tried to get on Disability Benefits once. You ahve to have an assessment, but i failed it because they thought i had a nice appearance!. Just because you look ok doesn't mean you are ok in your mind. I'm supposed to be going on a Mandatory Work Programme in a couple of weeks. The problem is, it is outside my home town. I can't travel outside of my comfort zone on my own. I'm not used to travelling long distances on public transport alone. I don't think i could take someone with me either, as i don't think they would be allowed in the building. If you refuse to go on the Work Programme, the people at the Job Centre can stop your benefits, but i'm not sure how long it will be stopped for. I want to ask them if it's possible for me to go on a Work Programme in my home town instead. I don't know why they didn't put me on one in my home town in the first place. I live with my grandparents. My grandfather can drive, but he is very old, and doesn't like driving long distances, so he wouldn't be able to take me there, and i can't get a lift from anyone else, and a taxi would be too expensive. I feel too embarrassed to tell the staff at the Job centre about my problem though, and i don't think they would understand. The staff on the Work programme will know about my problem though, as one of the advisors at the Job Centre sent my information to them ,and it was mentioned.They need to know information about you to help you find a job that suits your needs. What should i do ?.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (13 March 2012):
 I understand your problem, having had some experience of it with others. I'm afraid that if you don't make it clear to those at the Job Centre (request a confidential interview, not in the open area), you will have to comply with their demands.
Additionally, please go and see your GP, who will be able to refer you for counselling and write a support letter to the Job Centre and any other relevant bodies to back up your claims.
Don't be embarrassed about going for counselling, either; it will help you come to terms with your difficulties and also help to show that you are taking steps to overcome your problem and not just hiding behind it.
In other words, it will add veracity to your statements.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 What exactly is it you fear about travelling outside of your home town? Has this stemmed from an issue from your past or is it just a fear of the unknown? If you refuse to go on the work programme they can stop your payments completely. Therefore really the only choice that you have is to tell them the truth about how you are feeling and see what they can do about it. Maybe there was no space on the program in your home town. Why not give it a try and have faith and confidence in yourself. Not only will it get you out of the house but it could also allow you to make new friends and have something positive to do. Sometimes we need to think outside of the box and try and have a positive attitude, we all have our comfort zones but sometimes it is good to push ourselves outside of them as well.
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