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writes:ok to try to make this as short as possible I am going through a divorce met a girl on myspace who is 19 Im 34. She lives in the next state over well we talked online and on the phone for a few months. And I have fallen head over heels for her. The problem is, is that i dont trust her. Everytime that we have set up a time to meet each other something has happened everything from her dcad getting sick and being in the hospital, her being sick, her kid being sick all of that has happened twice. This last time she said that she was afraid. She had told me that iin the previous state that she lived in she had gotten beatg up and her boyfriend had let his friend rape her. There has been so many inconsistency that she has told me. She saysd that one of her problems from the rape is that she hated taking pictures, she has sent me alot but when I ask her to take one for me she says she will but she doesnt. She tends to disappear at nights and says that she just falls asleep. She tells me that she is in love with me, wants to be my wife and wants me to be her sons father. But we have almost broken up many times because of this and it feels like she was easily going to give it up. I dont know, my heart says one thing but my guit says the other. Need help what do I do
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reader, Zonee +, writes (29 December 2010):
 I dated a guy that was 19 yrs older. However, seems like you should get divorce and find yourself before getting involved with someone else. I think that if you did that you would look at your question and know the answer.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (15 December 2010):
BE CAREFUL
she sounds like a manupelative attention freek
infact you remind me of a story i personally lived
and ended by putting me in depression
and finding out the the girl i liked
had a histrionic personality disorder
try to visit this site i believe it well help you allot
www.psychforums.com
Good Luck
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reader, SceneXaddicted +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Well there seems to be a age gap, and I dont mean physically. I have personally been in that position first hand, My ex beat me and raped me... I understand the trauma and fear. I swore I would never date a guy who could over power me and I became a body builder.... It messes with your whole life. I can't blame her for being afraid. If you really want this to work, ask her what SHE wants, what would make her comfortable, where she would feel best meeting. Maybe at the local mall by her town so she doesn't feel so "lost in an unknown land". It helps ease the tension. You say she has a kid, odds are she is exhausted, especially at 19. (I would know, I just turned 20) Sleeping isn't uncommon. She could have been making those things up out of fear, or she could just have horrible luck...
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Sorry that you are going through a divorce and feeling lonely but this online relationship is certainly not the way to go.
She is stringing you along - she has no intention of ever meeting with you - you are just fun to chat to and I am sure that you have boosted her ego by falling head-over-heels for her.
Rather find a support group in your area if you need to talk and wait until you have come to terms with your divorce before dating again.
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