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writes:I need some advice and it's a bit embarressing. My boyfriend likes to do stuff in bed that I don't like but I do them just to please him. He has no idea I don't like them, if he did he wouldn't ask me to do them. It is me who's making me do all this, he's a wonderful guy.I just feel like I need to compete with his exes and I'm just there to please him. Deep down, I know that's not true, he loves me implicitly but I have so many problems with sex, it's hard for me to see whether I even do it for my pleasure at all, or just for others'!Please help. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): Confide in him. Trust him. Love him. Show him.
If he is all that you say he will understand. He won't want you to struggle with feeling worthless. He won't want you to be unhappy intimately.
Get some individual counselling. Something in your life has happened to make you not trust in someone intimately and to keep doing something you don't like will only hurt you more and make you mistrust more.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): don't do things you're not comfortable with. if he loves you and cares about you, he will completely understand. in fact, if you told him right now that you aren't comfortable with the things you guys do, he'd probably be horrified because he wouldn't want to do anything that made you feel that way. i recommend telling him, as i'm sure he'd rather know than keep doing something that makes you uncomfortable.
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