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writes:Hi.I'm a 23 year old female, I have been with my boyfriend for almost two and a half years (He's 22), my boyfriend is kind, caring, a romantic in small doses (like buys ice cream on random occassions, or other things) I moved in with him and his mother within three months of us being together and things were good, apart from his mum doing his washing, us having to tell him to do dishes etc) we moved in to a rental just the two of us last year in September which is great but things about our relationship are starting to bug me...Our whole relationship it's always been just 4wding, camping with just us or another couple (his mate and his mates girlfriend) All he talks about to them is 4wding or stuff to do with cars and nothing else...When he's with his friends he talks with them loads, but when he has met mine (once or twice within two years) he never talks to them...(he has offered for my friends to come camping but they are not really into it)I do his washing, (I have offered to show him how to use the washing machine but he refuses) I also hang up his washing and he doesn't offer to help...(just does stuff to the car or sits on the couch playing xbox) I cook what feels like all the time, when he cooks, I do the dishes asap...but when I cook, he leaves the dishes till the next day...either plays on the xbox or watches a movie or 4wd show...I feel like I do a lot and he does little...I also get IPL done, he said he would go down on me a lot more if I had no hair down there...but he barely does go down on me...and when he does it's just licking my clit :/ (sorry for the information)we had this session of kissing passion the other night which was great...but these only happen once in a blue moon or when he senses I'm losing interest...Another thing to....I've been engaged before at the young age of 19...I know im only 23 but I want to either get engaged or have a baby...he says that having a baby will ruin his life cauuse of his 4wd/camping life style...I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to have a child but I feel like it's going to be that way for some reason :(I'm his first long relationship...his others lasted 6 months or less.I have only ever dated older men in the past (2 - 3 years older)...please help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend has says he wants to buy a house and get married first before he has a child...
dishes: I do the dishes when he cooks asap, but if he leaves them I end up doing them the next day because I don't like looking at them...
washing: He has told me that washing clothes is a womans job, and that if I was not to wash them he would just take them to his mothers...
My new years....He was going camping with his mate but that got cancelled so I went to my dads house in the afternoon while he went 4wding with his mate. I didn't get home till 10.30 and we just watched a movie...I actually didn't care if I spent new years with him or not :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2017): Yeah, welcome to life.
Dump him and get a lovey dovey homebody who will have kids if that is what you want.
Changing a person takes years and years and the main factor is their consent. He sounds like has his life how he likes it and isn't looking to change. You are not ready to have a child and he definitely isn't. Focus on a career/education.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (3 January 2017):
 STOP doing his laundry, if he choses to let his clothes sit and get smelly that's his problem, he is a grown up, let him deal with his laundry in a grown up manner.
If the deal is that whoever doesn't cook does the dishes, and he doesn't do the dishes, then you don't cook, he does, and then you do the dishes.
If you want to socialise with your friends and he doesn't, then you go and socialise and leave him with his xbox.
If you are wanting marriage and children and he doesn't then you reconsider your relationship ....
Did you go out with your friends for NYE? I hope whatever you did was something that YOU wanted to do.
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