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writes:i did something so stupid. i went on a date with someone who is visiting from another town and is only here for a week. he was a complete gentleman, didn't do anything inappropriate. we went to eat dinner and then drinks but now i'm thinking why i even went, he is going to leave soon. on the day of my first date with him i had asked a good friend and her boyfriend to join us at some point but i ditched her and went went about my date. now i feel really bad because my friend is not talking to me and he is going to leave and there is no chance of any relationship with him so i don't know what to say to my friend because she was more important. i want her friendship back, how can i say sorry to her Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 When you say you 'ditched her' do you mean you called her and cancelled or you simply didn't show up? Did you have specific plans or just a tentative double date?
If it's the former, life happens and sometimes plans have to change. If this man you met was only in town for one week and you cancelled or postponed plans with your friend I don't think this is a catastrophe. If one of my friends had done it, I wouldn't think twice about it. Unless they'd agreed to act as Godmother to my child and bailed on the day of the baptism or something. If it was just casual plans, I don't see why they couldn't have been changed for someone who was only in town for a short while.
You don't have to limit dates to men you think have marriage potential. You didn't bring the man home or return to his hotel room with him. You went out for drinks and that was it right? Seems harmless enough to me.
Anyway, further clarification would help me give you a more accurate answer.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 December 2012):
 I've done that before and the date turned out to be a disaster.
Just go round to her place and ask her to hear out your apology. Own up for the rude behavior and promise never to do it again.
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