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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Here's the story.....For the last 2.5 years I've been having troubled relationships. I've dated 3 guys 2 of which had serious mental and relationship problems worse than me! The guy I dated in between the 2 was wonderful! Everything a girl could seriously ask for. It was like a fairytale or straight out of a movie. My problem was I guess I didn't know what I wanted. I had just got out of a relationship and was so mentally not there so i broke up with him than got back together than broke up and so on. A few months went by where we didn't talk and than I went to him and cried my heart out but he was dating someone. So that was that. About 4-5 months went by again than I got a message from him. Now i'm dating someone but its kinda rocky so we hang out a few times, its just like old times everything is great but i'm torn between him and trying to make things work with the new guy. So I take a chance and break the old ones heart and try to make things work with the new guy. He's devistated and is like its so typical of me and not to ever call him again and so on. I felt really bad but I did the opposite of what I would nomally do. Its now been 7 months and everyday I find my self thinking about him. I was/am in love with him I know it. Did I ruin my 1 and only chance at something real? I ended my relationship with the new guy cause he's crazy. And I know the old one is dating someone now. I'm so confused I can't let him go no matter what i do. I'm come to realize that 1 one my biggest promblems is that I felt I didn't deserve someone as good as him. That's why we were always back and forth. Do I write to him and if so saying what? I'm so lost please someone help!
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (28 January 2009):
I have been the guy you are talking about. There is no harm in telling someone how you feel but just make sure your hope for the best but expect the worse. We all make mistakes and admitting to them is a great start for healing that wound. Just be absolutely sure you want him because if things turned out right and you repeated yourself it will most likely be over with for good.
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