A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I’m confused. There is a girl at work who is really shy and quiet. She doesn’t mix well with others and is quite hard work to get to know.At the Christmas party last year I was placed next to her at the table. After a few drinks we got on really well. Then co-incidentally she was my secret Santa and ever since then we have sent each other regular emails during work time. Spent a few lunch times together going shopping and swapped phone numbers.From the very beginning she knew I was married. The first day I met her was the day I returned from my honeymoon. She has had a boyfriend all along and moved in with him within the last 2 months.Still the emails continued. Recently she invited me to hers at lunchtime to show me her new house and we ended up watching tv on the bed together (it was the only tv in the house). Nothing happened, we just had a laugh and chat together.Last week we spent 3 lunchtimes at one anothers houses. Still nothing happened.Last weekend I decided that our regular work emails were becoming too disruptive to my work and on Monday I told her we should slow down with them with the hope that they will stop. But we could continue to be friends outside of work.She hit the roof, started sending me very bitchy emails with sharp comments. I really don’t know what’s wrong. I didn’t intend to have an affair with this girl, was I leading her on unintentionally? What is the meaning behind her change in attitude towards me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Vow, this "innocent" friendship can cause havoc if you are not carefull.
Does your wife know about this friendship?
This girl sounds very immatue and emotional, becareful!
Try and keep a distance and stop meeting her for lunch and definitely no more meetings at either homes, that was a mistake!
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