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writes:Sorry for the length of this question in advance guys. Alright, so there was this girl who lived in the room next to me in residence at university and about 2 weeks ago she mentioned that she and her boyfriend had broken up but she seemed to be over it from what I gathered.Anyway, since then I had really wanted to ask her out but since we were in the middle of exams i didn't think the timing would be right because i didn't want to put even more pressure on her on top of her exams so i didn't ask her.Anyway her exams ended on the 14th and she was scheduled to leave on the 16th so i thought i would ask her out on the 15th then, but because im an idiot i didn't and now she's gone and so my question is this, i ended up adding her on facebook and i really want to tell her how i had felt and i know i should have done it in person when we were both still at school but since that is no longer an option, im contemplating just sending her a FB message which i know usually is probably the worst way to tell someone that you like them but i really have no other option because we both live in different cities so we cant really meet up. What should i do? Any help is greatly appreciated
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Tell her that you like her as a person and hope to get to know her more next term. Shower her with compliments, tell her how pretty she is and how much she makes you smile or laugh. She will soon get the hint if you flirt with her and hopefully you will be able to tell if she is responding well to it or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thanks for your help guys, I really do appreciate it. Yea I now see how this could further complicate things, so I guess my next question would be, how can I hint to her that I like her and still have a chance to ask her out next year, and more importantly how not to fall into the dreaded friend zone? Again thanks for your help
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (18 April 2011):
Ok well first of I think you done the right thing by not telling her after her exams. Yes she may have seemed that she was over the break up but it usually takes someone more than 2 weeks to get over someone and also she had the stress of her exams so I think that you done the right thing.
Ok I understand that now you just want to get it off your chest and tell her how you feel, and good for you. Yes I understand your worries about doing it over facebook as it is so impersonal and you cant read the other persons body language. But I think that you need to look at the bigger picture here. What do you want to gain by telling her how you feel? At the end of the day you say that you both live in different cities and therefore meeting up is out of the question. Therefore would a relationship ever work for the both of you? Would you both even have a chance to spend quality time together? You need to really think carefully what exactly it is you want before you tell her. Goodluck.
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reader, Partyboy123 +, writes (17 April 2011):
 hey,
She lives in a different city, so this would be a long distance relationship... until next semester? This would put a lot of stress on you and her because you would want to see her often, but you really can't - and you know that. In all honesty, tell her how you feel over facebook (its one of the only ways you can contact her right?) if you want a long distance relationship, if you don't want one then don't tell her.
hope i helped.
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