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writes:I'm a female on my friend's site. I have never been sexually active until recently at the age of 18 I never have done anythign sexual and one night i let my hormones get the best of me and I had sex with a boy that i was talking to for about a minute and I told him to stop. Nothing else happened after that there was no oral or anythig involved. I knew what i was doing was wrong. i am going to remain celibate until marriage. Will a man not marry me because of this? It's been bugging me a lot lately and i even cried the very next morning for a very long time I just need some advice. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): If virginity was a legal requirement to get married then there wouldn't be very many marriages happening. It's not a big deal to most people nowadays. But you do have to live with the consequences of your actions. You are definitely not a virgin anymore. Virgins don't risk pregnancy and need STI testing, which you do now. If a man is holding out for a virgin woman then you're off his list. I would not worry about a man thinking less of you for it. Most decent men who want a virgin will not be angry at you of think you're trashy for it. Its more like they will be emotionally hurt because of it. This kind of "jealousy" can be a wound that will never heal for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you marie.possa5 I know that i am not a virgin technically, but I am pretty close to it I feel terrible, but i really hope that my future husband will not look down upon me for this right when i realized that this is not me and I was doing something that i should not be doing I stopped and afterwards the man tried to convince me to do it again and give him oral I did not budge and cutt off all communication with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): when you meet someone who truly love you, the relationship is always forward looking. All husband want his wife to be happy. Everyone has a past, good or bad, it should not become a baggage in our life. Abstinence is a conscious effort for most people, now your challenge is for you to accept the past and continue to be truthful to your belief and value.
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reader, marie.possa5  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Beautiful! I applaude you!! I wish I would have done the same thing! My first time I regret it so much in a way. It really taught me that I should have waited! My naow boyfriend did not like so much that I was not a virgin. I thought exactly like you: not sex before marriage! I admire you for what you did! And remember, there is a guy for you out there that will love that you will wait until marriage!
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