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writes: I have been separated from my wife for 5 months. We two small children. I did something that has hurt her pretty bad. It's not infidelity, but a serious financial disaster as a result of a recently diagnosed mental illness and I stand to lose alot. I still love her and want my life back with her. She says she needs time and space and I sometimes think she's seeing someone else. What to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): Don't worry!!, I think that you must try, don't give up. You just have to do the necessary things to make her believe in you again. You could try to show her that you are the best option, that you can do it, but it's true you must wait, give her time and space and take distance, some times everybody needs time and space to think, don't pressure her.
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reader, luvloveluv +, writes (6 December 2005):
Dear Mike,Don't give up. She did not say no. Listen to what she is saying. Stay positive. Don't get crazy obsessed but let her know you are sorry and want to make things right. Make an appointment to go to counselling then ask her to go with you. Go whether or not she comes with you. Give her the time she needs but show her again why she fell in love with you the first time. Don't be needy or whine. Don't follow her or call her phone all the time. For Richer for Poorer. This advice is general because you did not give specifics to what actually is happening. Good LUCK :)
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (6 December 2005):
 Your wife says she wants time and space, so that is what you give her.Time will tell, as the saying goes, once she has had her time and space, however long that may take, the two of you can look at your marriage and decide if it is reconcilable. After all, that is what a seperation is there for, to give both parties time and space to step back, and reflect, then when you are both ready, to come to an agreement on how to go foward,either to a reconcilliation, or if the marriage is not salvagable, to ultimately divorce.Best of luck and take care.
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