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writes:I know this may seem like a stupid question, as it's kind of through my own doing. I recently fell out with my male best friend,strictly platonic, well not recently around four months ago lets just say? from speaking every day, this is the longest we've gone without speaking or having any contact, and after having him around for the past two years, it hasn't been easy to get used to. Over the past few years, we've argued and sorted things out like best friends do. Then we were fine for a very long time, for the best part of the last year. Things were good and I did enjoy having him around. He did something, in which he knew would cause then end of our friendship, but didn't believe me when I told him if he did this, then it would be the last time I would let him do it as he had done this numerous times before, another time would cause me to cut all contact with him. So of course he did it. And I followed through on what I told him, and cut all contact. And so for the past four month's we haven't been in contact, he's contacted a family member whilst on a night out whilst she was at work and asked how I was, in which I text him and asked him never to do that again and to just leave me and my family alone. He never replied, but he hasn't attempted to do this again since. I do miss him, and find myself thinking about things, that cause me to think about him. Is this just me getting used to his absence? How long has it taken any one else to forget about someone, who was once a huge part of your life? Just because there are so many things that happen and remind me of memories, and I'm just sick of remembering things. I know it's my own doing, but becoming friends again is out of the question.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (26 November 2011):
 I don't think you really ever forget someone who was a huge part of your life. I think you stop having them actively take up time in your mind... or you stop missing them like crazy... but you never really forget them.
The only thing that will solve this is time. In time, you'll stop getting the painful memories - just like with an ex boyfriend, eventually you'll move on. While there is no magic pill to relieve your mind, you can fill your time with plenty of distractions to get your mind thinking about other things.
Good luck!
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