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I cum too fast and it's ruining my relationship!

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Question - (21 October 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 November 2009)
A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hello here is a little background..

I'm 26 years old, and I live with my 19 years old GF, we now eachother for 1 year and been in relationship for about 5 months, she is by far the most pretty woman I ever had, she is just gorgeous with a awesome body, and a VERY sexual person.

before we begin having sex we used to have a lot of foreplay that would usually end in mutual masturbation, and we did it nearly everyday as she began to feel more and more comfortable with me we moved into sex...

at first i would feel very comfortable with her and would actually be able to last more than a few minutes sometimes (but never a lot) and would help her finish by using a dildo, hand, oral... but she changed and this wasn't enough for her anymore, we begin having fights over it, she would fight me for cuming too quickly and began avoid me by not even allowing me to touch her body in a sexual way, sometimes she would allow to touch but only in her chest and would fight me if i touched somewhere else (it would kill both of our sexual mood when we fought) ... she went as far as telling me that wouldn't have sex with me anymore cause wasn't pleasure for her... and that i have problems

.. i was able to regain some of her trust and make her want to have something with me again... but since she put so much pressure on me it seens everytime we have sex it only gets worse, last night we made some foreplay i got her very horny, but i was so much nervous i couldnt even get a erection, it was pretty frustrating and disapointing.. she fought me saying pretty harsh and humiliating things

another problem is that she hates slow sex, she likes sex only when its done fast and hard for about 1 hour or more, cause its not easy for her to achieve orgasm and at this point she doesn't want dildo, hand, or oral anymore, she only wants hard sex.

I havent idea what to do about it anymore, it really makes me feel down, i been doing kegel exercices but i dont know if they are enough, i heard they can even make u cum faster depending on person.. in the past i even tried viagra when i was nervous but even that couldnt keep my erection after cuming... i love her extremely much and wish i could give the best pleasure in the world to her, but i just cant anymore and our fights make it even worse

i don't want our relation to end because of this :(

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009):

wow from paradise to hell over something you cant control, well cant control yet...

there is a way to increase the time that you can preform for without 'ejecting'

look up martial arts - 23 books in google and get that. the last book in there tells you how to train your penis to do what you want it too. unfortunately im still on the 1st part, my muscles arent as strong as i need them to be, but with the amount of info in there it will definately help you.

also look into proper fingering techniques, i watched this japanese video where multiple guys fingered girls and they came (squirted alot) within about 10 seconds. it looked like they pulled up and stimulated the frontal part on the vaginal cavity or w/e.

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A male reader, Chaddles Australia +, writes (21 October 2009):

Since I can't have sex due to my age and lack of girlfirend, I'm going to suggest something Charlie Harper said on 'Two and a half men':

'To stop the hose [insert proper line here], you gotta think of something that's not sexy.'

Alan: What do you think about?

Charlie: you....

So apparently, thinking of something non-arousing makes the train ease into the station a lot slower.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009):

Hard and fast for an hour or more? I don't understand how that is much pleasure for a guy lol (but don't say that to her!)

Not sure what can be done about the quick endings. St Johns Wort to increase serotonin?

Maybe make her able to cum sooner instead? Use a beckoning finger on the end of the front wall of her wahoo (the deepspot method). Then when she can cum from that, progress to the other walls.

When she fights with you, stay composed. Always!

That said, she doesn't sound like such a nice person (fighting about something you can't even control?), and you seem to only like her for her looks. If it ends, you simply have the opportunity to find someone better (nicer) for you.

Good luck

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