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writes:I have a sort of strange problem...It's that I cry too much. I'll cry at almost anything. Whether it be on tv, or in a movie, or just from a story. It's not like I want to cry. Half the time I do I'm sitting there asking myself "Why am I crying?" I feel like it's almost just a plain reaction. Like the other day I did a job interview, got a math question wrong. Told my dad about it, he pointed out my mistake and I tears just came to my eyes because I messed up such an easy question.Even today! I was making myself some instant soup, which requires heating up water in the microwave. So I did and when it was done, I pulled it out. A little water spilled over the cup and burned my finger. I pulled back as pain reaction and more hot water spilled over all over my hand. I dropped the cup to stop the burning and there was spilt water all over the floor. Again, I started crying. I knew it wasn't a big deal, but i felt bad I had made a mess.I even cry when I get yelled at which is the worse. Because then I can't make a compelling arguement back because i'm too busy crying. I read that crying really usually happens not because you're sad, but because you're frustrated. But it happens so often it just bothers me.One day my class was going to go on a field trip. It had been snowing, and out of all the days in the world, our superintendent decided to delay school 2 hours which would mean no field trip. I immediately started crying because I wanted to go (and I'm 16 by the way...too old to be crying over such little things). My friend called me about it and i was complaining about the school, and just then on the radio, they said they made a mistake and our school was actually on time. I was so happy I cried a lot harder. I couldn't even continue talking to my friend I was crying so much. I had to tell my mom to tell my friend what I had just heard. She had to tell my friend i was "a little emotional at the moment." I was so embarrassed and my mom was just looking at me like I had some strange problem. I'm sort of worried that if I ever have a boyfriend, he's going to be weirded out if I start crying a lot. Really, when I cry about little things I don't want anybody to worry about it. I just need to let it out. But that could cause problems in a relationship. It wouldn't only be embarrassing for me but for him as well.I want to stop all this crying! I feel like most of the time it's because I make a mistake and I'm upset that I can't go back in time and fix it to stop it from happening and disappointing anyone. I hate being emotional. What can I do to stop this? Could this be some mental condition? Or am I just a panzy that's too sensitive about everything? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): hi...well, the person who answered this question before me has a good point and gave a lot of good advice; you should definitely look into seeing a doctor. however, if you're anything like me, i can sum up your problem in just one little word. PUBERTY. i used to be a really big crier, too. and then, once all my hormones got themselves in check and all that good stuff, it gradually got harder and harder to make me cry. this is not to say that i'm totally unemotional or anything like that--i just don't cry very easily anymore. it could be that this is your only problem...in which case there isn't really anything you can do about it but wait it out. on the other hand, like i said before, the previous poster could be on to something, and her advice might be the best to take. either way, i wish you all the best!!! ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Well crying easily and too much can be a sign of a number of things - you should go to see a doctor.
In some people it can indicate depression - but it doesnt sound like you are depressed, you just cry easily and are a sensitive person.
Most likely in your case it will either be a) a hormonal imbalance or b) an indicator of a psychological problem that needs help from a therapist. The hormonal imbalance can be sorted out by a doctor so you really should visit one soon and tell them all about this. If it is psychological, rather than physical - dont worry, it doesnt mean you are mad or seriously ill or anything like that. It might just be something as simple as low self esteem that can be easily dealt with by having some counselling. Or the fact that you are saying you are worried about disappointing people indicates you may have some acceptance issues that again can be dealt with quite easily if you have some counselling.
So go along to your doctor and explain everything you have said here, tell them it is really affecting your life as it can happen in public a lot and you would like to look into the different options for dealing witn it. They should be able to help or refer you to a therapist who can help.
Good luck!
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