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writes:I had to attend a conference that was out of state that lasted over a week. I got a nagging feeling and before I left I counted my husband's Viagra pills. When I got back I counted them again and 1/4 of a tablet was gone. He halves them and doesn't use a whole one but usually uses a half a tablet since they are an expensive pill at $10.00 a pill. 1/2 of the half tablet was gone. He has used 1/4's before too.I don't know if he used the 1/4 tablet with a porn flick or if he used it on someone else...I hate to go there with that thought that he had an affair, but he has always had wandering eyes for the ladies when we are in public together and there is this one lady in town that he dated prior to me that does not live that far away (she broke up with him) plus an assistant at his work that he raves about that he says is beautiful and he has tried to help her with her divorce and he has gotten too involved in her personal life and she only lives a block away, kitty corner from us. I know, my mind is on overdrive and I should learn to "trust" and all of that but there are times with all his prior actions that I doubt him. Plus I have caught him in lies. Not big stuff, but it's hard for me to tell when he actually "is" telling the truth or is covering things up.I don't want to accuse him of anything and I won't but something prompted me to count his pills. Call it a sixth sense I guess.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (15 June 2013):
 How do tolerate his behavior with other women? U need to do better at telling him wat he does is wrong. My instinct says he cheated sadly. Investigate. Good luck.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (15 June 2013):
I believe woman have a strong sixth sense. I always tell my girlfriends to trust it. It is never wrong. That deep feeling in your gut is always right.
I would still look for evidence. Everyone needs proof.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2013): I agree it could have just as easily been him wanting to masturbate.
The whole reason those pills work is because age-related blood flow reductions don't reduce his desires, only his abilities. If he would have wanted sex while on the pill then he would probably have wanted sex without it too. So that's a reason for him to take it even if you aren't around.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 June 2013):
You call it a sixth sense, I call it paranoia.
You have zero evidence of infidelity, and you've just experienced the phenomenon of "if you want to find a reason to suspect your spouse you will."
I have a friend who nearly ruined his marriage with all sorts of far fetched "evidence" of cheating. At one point he even suspected me of being with his wife because we went to the library (he had promised to give her a ride but fell asleep when I was at their house).
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013): Is your husband handsome, rich and charming? If so, based on his behavior, I'd be nervous too. But it sounds like these ladies aren't too interested in him in that way. So he is playing It's very possible he needed to take a viagra to masturbate. I don't know your husband but that seems, in a general sense, the most likely scenario. If you are having doubts about his fidelity, you should confront the matter. If he is not being honest with you, you should try to do some snooping and get to the bottom of it. It is your emotional well being at stake. I don't think that's cool that he talks to you about other women in such a revering way clearly based on his attraction for them. That is inappropriate and would make me suspicious too. I think more than a sixth sense, he's simply said and done things that are questionable and cause for concern. That is why you are naturally on edge and rather suspicious. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. He is your husband, you both should be able to communicate. If you keep getting the nagging feeling that he is pulling one over you, use your female skills to get to the bottom of it. Check his phone, internet history.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (14 June 2013):
 Ahh, the sixth sense. It is frequently your mind summing up a bunch of little things. But whether you had reason to suspect or not, you now have s missing half dose. As a guy in a similar situation to your husband let me give you my take. I've never been a cheater / player I'm assuming that this would be a first for him as well If I had an opportunity I wouldn't be going in half cocked (pun intended). I would want to make a good impression. I would take at least a half pill. Next, he has money and a prescription. If I really wanted to hide something, I could go buy one pill.
I know what my Wife would do if she counted pills and found one missing. She would let me know and ask if I had a good time. She would assume masturbation. Some times I think she should be more suspicious. I mean doesn't she think I could attract trouble? But seriously communication is always the first step.
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