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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI was sleeping with someone I liked in 2011, only things went wrong and I contracted the herpies virus from him. The virus never goes, although it lies dormant, I now have it for life.Well I met one of my neighbors three months ago. I like him and the thought of sleeping with him has crossed my mind. The problem is, because of whats happend in my past, I'm scared to open up, if not to my neighbour then to someone else in my future.I can't stay single forever and at some point I will want to open up to someone, but meeting my neighbour has brought to light the fact that one day I will have to tell someone that I have this virus.How can I get past this? how can I ever open up and trust someone again. How do I tell some in future that I have this virus and at what point do I do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2014): Oh Hun, firstly take a loooong deep breathe. I am 43 and contracted this virus when my ex decided not to tell me way back when I was 22... It was heartbreaking at the time and I remember feeling like my life was over when he and I split several years later and there I was with my kids and an incurable std. I honestly thought no man would ever want me
But guess what I fell in love again I married I had more children and life went on.
Unfortunately after a long marriage if find myself single yet again and facing the terrifying idea if sharing this information again but guess what ... Again !!! People have been accepting of me and the man who I have come to love sees me as so much more than some skin condition which rarely causes any symptoms at all
So believe me life goes on even with herpes . In many ways it causes me to really think long and hard about the relationships in life and the people I share my self and inner world with
I know it sounds scary but reach out ... Look for support on forums and get as much information as you can. You don't have to tell anyone unless they are directly exposed to any risk ie sexual partners so the internet gives you a great way to share and discuss it anonymously
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