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writes:Well, I am quite confused. Here´s my story:I have been in love with a very good friend and, after some non verbal communicating actions and signs, I have found out he feels the same but neither of us have ever verbalized it. The reason being is that I am in another relationship (although I am not happy and I am thinking of ending it).The thing is that, after 3 years of holiding back my feelings for my friend and not confessing my love, I have finally broken up and told him via e-mail (because he lives in another country and, even though we saw each other recently, we weren't brave enough to talk about it and now he was gone).I just could not hold it back anymore and did it.His reply is what I am not sure about... he appreciates me being honest about my feelings towards him and tells me that he has always been very independent (which I already knew and also knew that he does not want to get attached to anybody right now meaning he does not want a serious relationship with anybody) and he kept saying that he feels that, although he misses his family and good friends, he feels that his place at the moment and his future is there, in that country, right now.He says that he has enjoyed my confession and thanks me.However, he is not saying anything at all about how he feels about me. I wish he would have said something one way or another but he said nothing. So how can I know if he really has similar romantic feelings towards me? I have always known deep down in my heart that he also loves me due to his actions when we see each other and the non-verbal communication, etc. but it would be nice if he would tell me verbally if what I imagine is true or is just my imagination, right?After thinking much about it I believe that he may not want to reveal his true feelings because I am in another relationship (that he does not know is not going well) and maybe because he is in another country and does not want a serious relationship with anybody. Those would be 3 good reasons to not think is worth to confess his love for me? What do you think?I would love to hear any opinions.Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thanks for your answer!
I may take your advise on board and give it a try.
Yeah, madly in love, can you tell? ;-)
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reader, kllgunner  +, writes (1 March 2009):
 hey well maby he is just scared to tell you how he feels and well it might be ockward but why dont you ask him how he feels and then maby hell open up in the mean time break up with ur current partner and then ask and tell him u wont think any differently of him hope this helped
-madly in love?
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