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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Well, I know that it is not right to compare people. But I can't help compare my current bf to my ex. My ex cheated on me before and that led to our break-up but then communication-wise, he never failed to check on me around once or twice a day. Ask me how my day went, if i went home safe etc.But my current bf, i know and feel he is faithful to me. And that is not my issue now. What I notice is that he wont communicate with me as often as my ex did. I mean, he calls me like crazy when he comes to see me or always makes it a point to say hi to me online and invites me to view his webcam. But then, there are wkends when I dont hear from him the whole day. And when I ask him where he is, he'd say..."didn't I mention last night I am meeting my friends to watch a football game? I told you about that."But my question, wont he even call me to check if I am still breathing or not? Or where I am and who I am with?He tells me he trust me so much and expect that I trust him too. That is not why I am upset, I am upset that he don't even care where I am? And this makes me compare him to my ex who have never failed to say hi to me even in his busiest time.If my ex was this and he managed to cheat on me? Then what could this say about my bf how he really feels about me? Can anyone help me understand or atleast give me some advise? Thanks so much.
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 If your current boyfriend and you have decided to have a serious relationship, then there should be no issue about you contacting each other through-out the day, especially before you go out somewhere. These are practices to establish trust in your relationship.However, if he doesn't want to check-in with you, especially before he goes somewhere, that's a red flag and/or he's backing away from being serious with you. A man who has no shame of where he is spending his time, will have no problem telling you where he is. Proceed with caution.
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