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*ak1298
writes:Please help meIts my Junior year in high school and im really cracking down on my grades this year. and at the end of last year i met this girl that thought i was cute. i saw her around the hallways and she always looked great. her hair is really dark and it glows a dark redish from a distance and it is gorgeous. i took her out a couple times and asked her out when she wasnt expecting it. she was my girlfriend but i really didnt treat her like it. i treated her well but i didnt give her enough attention. then i went to the beach while she was in italy and slept with another girl i met there. i came home telling myself i was never going to tell her what happend. couple weeks later i started feeling really bad bcause i realized how awsome my girlfriend really was. its all the little things she does, like crawling up and laying on my shoulder when im just chyllin on the couch then at the most random moment give me a big smooch right on the cheek. i could go on and on with this but the point is i really like her. i dont want to rush her by saying i lover her bcus then everyting revolves around sex (which is nice and all but i think theres more to a relationship than that). but so i told her that i cheated on her and she eventually told me she wanted to break up with me right there and then. but we were already planned to go to a different beach that weekend before school starts and we had alot of fun. we just forgot about everything. but as soon as we got back it just got really awkward. i would chyll with her in school but the only time i would even get a kiss was once when she was in a good mood bringing back presents one monday bcus she went to universal studios that previos weekend. then later that week we just decided to take a break from dating just so we could talk and not feel as awkward.now my question is: does anyone have any hints to show her how much she means to me,or tone down the awkwardness so i can have her back by homecoming night?
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reader, cak1298 +, writes (25 September 2009):
cak1298 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i really do care about her and she does care about me to so please dont tell me that i should move on. ive met alot of girls and none of then were this great. and the other thing that buggs me is people telling me to concetrate more on my grades bcus i have great grades in my most important year of high school. ive already been offered 2 (two) scolarships an 2 special invitations. one to study if 16 countrys in europe next summer and a free enterpise entrepenuership program. and this will be the sencond one ive gone to this year.
my stepdad always tell me i should have met her later bcus of how great we are for each other. and im not going to give up on her and move on. im not trying to pass the blame either but she was rather shy in the beginning and i just didnt know her very well. but now i really do like her. i just want to show her how much i care for her before homecoming night so i can ask her out again by that night
i know she still likes me and i if i asked her to homecoming i know sheel say yes but i wanna show her i can be a good bf. ive done it before its just hard with her becausei just try so hard not to make mistakes i did with other girls and something else goes wrong
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (24 September 2009):
 Actions not words.
Young man, hard as it is going to be for you to hear this here it is. You cheating at this young age shows one thing and one thing only...sadly you are not mature enough to be in any kind of relationship. She is well within her right to not trust you.
I suggest you move on, concentrate on your grades and leave this girl alone. she obviously changed her mind about you and you could not be trusted. And she sadly is right.
Let this be a lesson to you for when you actually grow up that when you betray people they are under no obligation to forgive you. So go forward and apply what I just told you to the future, and you will have a happy life.
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reader, Salmacis  +, writes (24 September 2009):
 Why do you have to rush things and aim to get her back by a certain date? I have the impression that you only want a girlfriend and don't care about her feelings. I hope I'm wrong. You cheated on her and she probably lost trust in you. I think the break is a good idea to give her some space to think. Just let time take its course; something that both of you might need. On the mean time, you should definitely think about what you really want from this relationship. Best of luck!
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