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writes:hi all, i am 46 years asian lady and married with 3 children and nice husband. last year i fell in love to asian man and we kissed many time and he asked me for sex but i refused. now he stoped to see me and phoned me and that relation is over now but i think i have lost my reputition and self respect and if i tell my husband he will give me divorce and i am feeling guilty all the time and do not concentrate on my work and please tell me how can i stop negative thinking, may be your advice can help me and give me confidence so please please help me what should i do? thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): what he doesnt know will never hurt him, beside ruining a good marriage for something thats long gone come on
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Realizing your mistake is a good thing. Now that you know you have done something wrong, you should not repeat it again, ever and thats the sign of someone who knows his or her mistake. Revealing this to your husband would only make things more messy. Think about your children too. If you are feeling awful, narrate the entire incident to a close friend. It would relieve you a little. Just remember one thing, no one is perfect in this world. Everyone has done some bad in life. Try to keep yourself engaged in something you like doing, talk to your friends, get a good social life outside home, it would help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth will free your soul. tell him why you did it maybe it will highlight a problem that needs to be addressed in the marriage
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reader, SweetindianGirl  +, writes (26 September 2010):
if you only kissed its OKAY forget it nothing happened dont bring it up. if you had sex ask God for forgiveness and dont do it again! your husband is NOT god... I KNOW as an indian woman you think he is your "teerth" and you have to ask him for forgiveness and stuff but you do not. you slipped nw you got up and are walking again! relax its not as b ad as it seems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): you shouldnt tell your husband. If you want things to work out, keep it to yourself. If you tell him and your relationship is over with the other guy, then you're just causing him pain as well as yourself. Just look past this and think of it as doing him and yourself a favour.
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