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writes:I cheated on my boyfriend and now I am pregnant and I don't know whose is it. I am 18 and live with my boyfriend who is 27 for 1 year, we were having trouble in our relationship and sometimes when he got angry he would slap me if we argue which was starting to annoy me and we used to argue nearly every day because he has a stressful job so he often stressed and little things would make us argue. I also was stressed alot as I lost my last living relative just under a year ago (my mother) who I was very close to and now have no family and when she died my boyfriend allowed me to live with him. But I still grieving her everyday and am often depressed.Because we argueing so much I even warning him he need to stop or I will leave him but most of the time I don't mean it because I don't have anywhere else to go anyway since I have no family and I do not have a job. When in this time I started speaking to a guy I meet online and he make me feel like I have someone to talk to me then because my boyfriend had not talking to me too much before just argue and I felt better for abit. I arrange to meet up with this guy but he is from a different country so he had to book flight to come here which had cost over £100. I tried to break up with my boyfriend but he not let me he keep crying and I don't know I can't cope with it. I re-think and I still very love my boyfriend and but still feel unsure whether I want to stay with him or not because seems things are not getting better but this guy have already pay for ticket so I thought I will meet him to confirm wehther I want be with my bf or not still since I was meeting him in another town (my home town) and I will be away from my bf from a week but I will not do anything with him. I really didn't want to go to meet him but since he had payed and his ticket non-refunandable I didn't know what else to do and my bf think I am going to my home town to see my friends.When I was meet him he is so horrible in person I hate him! and I try to ask all my friend can we stay at their house but everyone parent wouldn't let so I have to stay with him in hotel and I made mistake of going out with some friend adn getting really drunk and I can't remember anyting and when I stay in the hotel with him he make me have sex with him I think I told him no but he do anwyay but I cannot remember too much.. almost nothing. He did not use a condom but he did not cum inside.I feel so guilty for cheat on my boyfriend but I have not told him, when I am away from my boyfriend I realise I love him so much andhe realise too and has really change for me and is so nice to me now.. but.. then I find out on march 4th I am pregnant. I had last had sex with my boyfriend the 14th of Febuary, when we last had sex we did not use condom and he ejaculate inside me (he does not normally this was the first time he come inside me, normally we use pull-out method I have not been pregnant before). The other guy was Thursday 18th February (very early on though about 2am i think) and he not cum at all. (I did not have sex with him again after).When I did the test on thursday 4th March it say I am 2-3 weeks pregnant which would be true for both guy, then I did again on Tuesday 9th and it say I am 3+ weeks pregnant, at this time I would be 3+ weeks pregnant with my boyfriend but I had not even met the other guy yet let alone have sex with him or concieved, but I don't know how accurate these test are?My period was due 2nd of March and my period before that was febuary 2nd, my periods are very regular normally. This mean my ovulation period was from 13th FEB to 18th FEB and I read its unlikely to be later on in ovulation period as it is the 12th day is the most fertile day which is the EXACT date me and my boyfriend have sex.I crying every day about this and cannot sleep, Abortion is out of the question because I am against it fully.I don't know whether should I tell my boyfriend or not I don't think he would leave me to be honest but I do not want to hurt him as he would be very hurt.. I would never do again and had never before to anybody. I can't stand the thought of it being the other guy though he is disgusting and I hate him!Plz tell me what do you think is it more likely my boyfriend or his? What should I do? Btw, My boyfriend is ASIAN, the
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reader, anitaakamenko  +, writes (3 January 2011):
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pls my dear you have tell him that you are pregnant than keeping the pregant on yourself before the is born or else it wil bring more problem
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reader, raiders  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 You should report this, if you said no than this is rape. Now I hope you learned your lesson and never again meet strangers that you meet online in hotel rooms. You are lucky you made it out alive lesson learned I guess, but you have to have get tested for all kind of STD and avoid sex with your boyfriend until all your results are in. You being pregnant and with a 50% chance that this baby is not your boyfriend imagine the pain you are going to cause him if you make him think this baby is his and he turns out not being the father. I think you have to be honest and you have to admit to him you were unfaithful, you can't stay quite about the cheating because there is a baby in the way and will not be fair to him.
Please don't allow your boyfriend to hit you, call the police and send him to jail. No men has the right to lay a finger on a women, please don't tolerate this behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): I don't think you should tell him at all this would hurt him and ruin your relationship when the baby is born take some hair form your boyfriend and hair from the baby and get a DNA test behind his back and find out who's baby it is if the baby is his than don't say anything at all but if the baby is not his then you have to tell him everything... you made a horrible mistake especially sleeping with a man you didn't even know he could've had HIV he could've raped and killed you don't meet nobody on the internet anymore its very dangerous good luck with everything hope everythiing turns out ok.... and stop being stressed and worried its not good for the baby you could lose your baby if you are stressed
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