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writes: Hi, i'm really confused. I cheated on my BF of 2 years (never done anything like that before) and I dont feel guilty and its really upsetting me. When I think of the future all I see is my BF but if I dont feel guilty then how can it work? What can that mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Yeah I know. So if she doesn't feel guilty, and being upset that it doesn't make her feel guilty, then the contradiction would be that...
You know what? I'll just leave it to the pros to explain this. I'm multitasking way too much.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Martini - I think she means that what is upsetting her is the fact that she doesn't feel guilty....
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reader, hannieseds +, writes (15 June 2006):
Hi there,
The first thing you need to do is ask yourself what drove you to cheat on him in the first place. If you look towards your future and all you see if you and him together, then WHY did you cheat on him?
It sounds to me that you do love this man but you are feeling either scared of the commitment that is facing you after 2 years of dating, or you are bored with the relationship. You WANT to believe you see a future with him, because you have for the past 2 years, BUT subsciouslly you are looking for a way out and that is why you don't feel guily when you cheated on him.
If you don't feel guily about this then I don't see how there can be any future to your relationship with this man. How would you feel if he cheated on you then didn't feel guilty about it?! It's one thing to cheat then spil everything to your partner and ask for forgiveness for the rest of your life because the guilt is eating you up, but it is quite something else to feel nothing at all.
Do what is best for both of you and go your seperate ways before you cheat again with no guilt attached and hurt this man beyond repair.
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): U don't feel guilty, but it's upsetting you? That sounds contradictory.
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