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I cheated, and then found out, to get back at me-he cheated on me! How do we sort out this mess?

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Question - (22 March 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I cheated on my boyfriend of 5 years with a guy i used to work with. My boyfriend found texts on my phone and I owned up what I did. I felt so guilty and it made me realise how much I loved my BF and how I didn't want to lose him. He forgave me, well what I thought he had only to find out that he had been seeing a girl 14 years his junior for the past 6 months. He keeps telling me it was to get back at me and that he loves me and wants us to sort it out. I love him so much and would do anything to sort it but he won't talk about whats happened and just wants to take each day as it comes. He says he doesn't speak to her anymore but she works with him so that is a lie. I really need some advise on how to want me back and how to sort this situation out?

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A female reader, livi United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2007):

livi agony auntHey there,

What a situation!

It sounds like you have both tasted each others medicine!

You should tell your BF that enough is enough and its quits time. no more cheating, the score has been tied, if he continues to be like this then you need to let him know you are very unhappy.

Also you need to trust him, i know that probably sounds tupid after he cheated on you but that was probably petty revenge. He loves you otherwise he would not have gone to the trouble of getting back with you after all this had happened.

Good luck with it all : D

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A male reader, agony_uncle_r United Kingdom +, writes (22 March 2007):

the problem with cheating is it erodes all trust and confidence, it really is a question of getting back to basics and starting a new.

you need to work out what created the spark in the first place and build on it, go out more, switch the tele off and talk more, go out for meals more.

and dont ever bring up ur mistakes from the past as you both offended.

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