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writes:I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started going out 9 months ago. I told him though and he's forgiven me. Everythings perfect and i couldnt ask for anything more. But i often get upset and wonder why he's still going out with me. He assures me that he has forgiven me and hes forgetten about it and i should too. I tried but everytime we are apart i think about how horrible i was to him and its eating away at me, i cant seem to forget and i dont know what to do :|?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (23 December 2007):
 You need to forgive yourself. In your lifetime you will make many more mistakes so learning to forgive yourself is important. If you boyfriend (who by the way appears to be mature beyond his years) can forgive you why can't you forgive yourself.
As for him still being with you-you are a good person, why shouldn't he be? You were honest with him and most guys (and girls) respect honesty. He will never have to worry about you not telling the truth. You should enjoy your great relationship.
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reader, Dangly +, writes (22 December 2007):
you should be grateful, your one of the lucky ones. Stereotypically boys forgive girls easier. We cant hold grudges on you girlies, your all too cute and adorable. He will be over it, as long as you dont cheat on him again, he will trust you. If you cheat on him again tho, then it would be over with most blokes. Be grateful, forget about it, your lucky you have gotten a second chance
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 i think he's right, he's moved on and still loves you and you should respect and cherish that. dont dwell on the past - he doesnt, and thats wat matters. dont let the guilt eat away at you as it may jeopardise wat you still have. its healthy to regret something like this but you seem to be letting it consume you. you have learned from your mistake and you should be happy that you have and that you still have love with your partner.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 December 2007):
 I think your boyfriend is right, you need to forget about it and move on with your lives. Ok so you made a stupid mistake, but rather than brush it under the carpet and not tell him about it, you did. This was a very brave thing to do because ultimately you laid everything on the line, and it paid off, becuause you were honest. You gave him the option to walk away but he did not, he forgave you, probably because you came forward and told him. And he probably knew that that took some courage to do, as most people probably would not have said anything. Stop thinking about the past and look forward to the future now, he's forgiven you, whats done is done.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 December 2007):
I think your boyfriend is right, you need to forget about it and move on with your lives. Ok so you made a stupid mistake, but rather than brush it under the carpet and not tell him about it, you did. This was a very brave thing to do because ultimately you laid everything on the line, and it paid off, becuause you were honest. You gave him the option to walk away but he did not, he forgave you, probably because you came forward and told him. And he probably knew that that took some courage to do, as most people probably would not have said anything. Stop thinking about the past and look forward to the future now, he's forgiven you, whats done is done.
All the best & good luck x
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