| A
female
,
*onfused18
writes: I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and i thought i loved him but now im not sure. I mean he's wonderful, everything a girl could ask for. Ever since I've been with him i haven't noticed any other man. But now I'm in trouble because I met this girl at work and i started to develop strong feelings for her and I never had feelings for another woman before. I cant stop thinking about her, I keep thinking about her smile and the way she touches me when she passes by. She wants me too. I don't know what to do. I'm happy with my man but i want her too. Please help!!!
View related questions:
at work, girl at work Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): Hey,
Ok you are in a difficult position because if you pursue your feelings for this girl you are 1.hurting your current bf and 2.not totally sure whether you want him or not, therefore messing him about. You say this girl wants you too? Has she told you this or are you gathering it from the things she says or does? The best thing is talk to her about it. If she has said she wants you, tell her you are confused, you need time and if she has half a brain cell she will help you thru it. Or other option is tell your boyfriend, but from this you seem to be more worried about you him than the girl. You never actually said whether you're living with him or not so it may be more difficult coming out of a relationship if your living together like a couple. If it were me I would talk to the girl, if you cant drop it into conversation or touch her arm and brush by her to see her reaction if you don't know whether she likes you.
Hope this helps. I'd love to know whether my advice helps, post a reply plz. Keep smiling :-)
A
male
reader, realguy +, writes (20 November 2006):
Wow ! Congratulations, you win the Olympics of difficult relationship situations. I have had many friends in your same situation and my advise...tread very carefully with much thought and trepidation.
First of all, it sounds like you need to do some searious sole searching on who you are as a woman and a lover. I don't think you have to create a box and put yourself in it but I would suggest you dig deep into your sole and think about if you are gay, curios hetero or bi, all are ok of course, it just helps with these situations if you know yourself before you act out. This may take some time and maybe even years and real experiences but again tread very carefully. One option, depending on the health of your hetero relationship, you might want to just be honest with your b/f, it might be an incredible turn on for him, you never know but remember that cheating is cheating, whether it is another guy or girl and that is what you need to consider for both yourself and him. If he is supportive, maybe then you want to sit down with your female friend and talk to her about your emerging feelings and see if she is open to a little experimentation with a lesbian encounter. There are no perfect answers here, if you listen to your heart, be brave and honest, things will usually work out but if you choose deception and try to juggle both without being honest to either party, it is sure disaster. Trust me. Good luck.
RealGuy
...............................
|
