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*lcn1982
writes:Ok, so here is the deal... I've been friends with this girl for a long time (9+ years). We were really close, then just kinda friends, and now really close again... I've matured (I'm 25) and am comming to realize I really like this girl. I would often consider her way out of my league. However some of the things she says makes me believe she is sort of interested... ie we were talking the other night and I had mentioned that if I were to lose a few pounds (I'm not grotesquely fat but could stand to lose 25 lbs or so...) that I may be able to someday be with a girl like her. She stated that I was very handsome and with my personality I was one of the most attractive people she knew, if it weren't for the fact we were friends for so long she would definitely be interested. That got my hopes up a little... I hang out with her a lot.. Even though I have a couple of other women I've been attempting to date, I always find myself being with them thinking about her... I've stayed at her house a few times the past couple of weeks and even slept in the same bed. (I'm not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing...) No sexual contact or anything just sleeping. We've been out and about, she will once in a while, sit on my lap, again not sure if this is good or bad. She is considering buying a new house and asked me if she were to do this if I would live in the house with her. She loves to have fun as do I and we share a LOT in common. I'm just scared to say something and things not be the same between us... She is not the type of girl to come out and ask a guy out, so I'm sure it's going to have to come from my mouth... I care for her way too much to lose her completely. Are the few little things she has done hints? or Am I just reading way too much into it? What do I do from here? Say something or just sit back and hope we live happily ever after? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): hmm
Well you do stand the chance of losing her if you try to escalate things, its that simple. But, such is life. If you feel for her, make your move. I don't think you'll be able to stand being mr. platonic forever if you have feelings for her..
As to whether her activity means she wants to date you.. Maybe. Women tend to flirt pretty randomly sometimes, so its difficult to tell there, buddy. And, women let their girlfriends and pets sleep in their beds too, that doesn't mean they want to date them. Your call.
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reader, 2sugars.  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 like you said, she's not the type of person to make the first move, so totally go for it and tell her how you feel. you have alot in common, and she obviously trusts you enormously to let you sleep in the same bed as her.
if it's really bugging you, and you're finding yourself inable to date other women, then you know that you think alot of her.
so tell her, it;s a risk, but if you cre, you'll be willing to take it (:
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